Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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deleted_user 11/30/2007

I've been going through depression and anxiety for about 7 months now. It's to the point where suicide has crossed my mind. I wake up with anxiety. Tough to go to my new job. Frequently urinate. Being pulled in several directions. Trying to take care of elderly mom, pay off my brother on a house we bought together, organize my life. The worst part is I can't seem to get motivate or stay happy. On top of that my girlfriend broke it off with me 2 days before our 1 year anniversary during our couples counseling session. I blame myself for a lot of our problems and right now I really miss my ex and I feel burned - this really, really stinks!!!

deleted_user 11/30/2007

You sound very busy and very overwhelmed. You need to take a break and concentrate on you for atleast a day. I am sorry that you are feeling so bad.

Hapless 11/30/2007

With doing so much for others, you aren't taking care of yourself much.

Try not to blame yourself for all your problems with the ex. It takes two to make a relationship work. From the sound of things your relationship would have continued to be difficult since you all were all ready in couples therapy after 1 yr. (I am not trying to be harsh, I just wanted to give you something to think about).

Try to find something fun to do or at least relaxing. Take Care of yourself.

deleted_user 11/30/2007

Thank you much for your kind words. I will be looking to support others as well...

deleted_user 11/30/2007

Yes Dep sucks. I had two year dark time after breakdown. BUUUT the wheel turns meds like Cymbalta and Seroqual help as does my beloved even more. Hang on and the Sun also Rises

deleted_user 11/30/2007

you have a lot on your plate at the moment hun , try to take some time out and concentrate on you. thinking of you. big hugs xx

ZAZAS 11/30/2007

you sure have all the definite stressors in life hitting you all at once, new job, broken relationship, family problems, care of elderly parent....... You deserve a break, go do something nice for yourself.

deleted_user 11/30/2007

I can't offer a solution on your other problems but as far as an elderly parent goes it's my understanding many agancies offer help for their care takers so you get well deserved breaks. Have you looked into this? Also my daughter has a friend who told me a lot of elderly can do more for themselves if given the chance. Have you talked with this parent and found out exactly what they can do for themself and take some of the burden off you? Sorry to be so long winded.

deleted_user 11/30/2007

I used to wake up in the mornings and for the first 30 seconds I was awake it was great, then the stomach knotted and the shortness of breath, choking feeling, racing pulse, tightness in the chest..called in to work. Finally came to the point I had to quit my job. It was awful.
Does sound like you are just trying to burn the candle at both ends and not paying attention to your own needs.
It's ok to be selfish now and then and give yourself some attention. One day at a time..steady as she goes..and give yourself a hug ALL THE TIME!!!!!!!!!!
Bless
Carolyn

deleted_user 11/30/2007

I agree with the comments that suggest that you're overwhelmed. You have so much responsibility and an elderly parent to look after, I don't think you should put so much blame on yourself for your relationship going south. Maybe you could sit down and talk to your brother about this, and hopefully come up with an agreement that would make paying him back easier, so that you can focus on other things, such as yourself!

deleted_user 11/30/2007

For some reason the frequently urinate stood out here...have you been tested for diabetes????? because i am diabetic and blood sugars out of range can make you depressed, tires, anxious..mood swings...I dont know your age or health status, but if you haven't had blood work done, I would recommend you do so...Peace and Love, Serenity55

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