Well, as some of you may know, my eldest son finally arrived for xmas on the 23rd. I breathed a sigh of relief when I picked him up from Chester station ( Its nowhere near where I live but he couldnt get together any more money )and it was so great to see him. Anyway, we get home have dinner and my little one arrives home in a mood. This happens from time to time...its down to his dad. Since we split 3 and a half years ago, he has become a cocaine addict and 2 and a half years ago, my son who was 12 at the time found out. He was really upset and begged his dad to sop ( and I mean begged )but he refused. He told him that he will do what he wants and that my son needs to "deal with it". It was horrible watching my son sob his heart out and have his previously loving and caring father tell him that cocaine was more important than he was. Anyway, my little one comes home and starts giving me hell, all because of his dad. This is how it has manifested itself in him. So...I get on the phone to his dad but as usual....hes off his head. He couldnt talk or even understand a thing I was saying. Nothing new there. Then...I get a call from his wife ( they met and married within 6 months. He asked her to marry him when he was blind drunk, didnt remember it and felt that he couldnt back out of it because she was so excited )telling me im not to phone him, that hes HER husband and im not having him. I know that he has used me to try and make her jealous and I have told him so many times that its playing games and that its the boys that have lost out because shes now so jealous of me but he dosnt care. Anyway, she gave me hell via an answerphone message so I texted her and told her that if I need to speak to my kids dad... she will NEVER stop me. She is also under the impression that the boys dad left me and is unaware that 2 weeks before her wedding, he beggged me to get back with him ( he did that from the day he met her as well )and because I said no, he went ahead and married her. I would never tell her this as I know it would break her heart but this woman has beeen let to get away with so much and its my kids that have suffered because of it. She hates my eldest son. She told me last year that he was ruining her happy home. She had her own house and the happy home she was talking about was the place my ex had for him and my eldest son. Theres a lot more to this but the bottom line is, this woman is stopping my kids from having a dad. She wont let him buy them anything but she will for her daughter who has everything you could imagine. I guess I need to know what to do. Does anyone have any ideas? My eldest now hates him but knows not to say anything to him as she will have him thrown out...shes already told him that so hes biding his time whilst at college until he can move out and my youngest will never get over the fact that his dad thought more of cocaine than him. I cant stand by anymore and watch my kids be torn apart by this... I really need some advice.
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