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the diary of a lonely housewife.

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since the rain has hit here, we finally have work (husbands a roofer). i should be greatful but its not just him working late. were juggling bankruptcy & hiding the truck from the repo men so were dead broke & hubby has the only other car all day while im stranded here with a 2 year old & absolutely NO help. woe is me but seriously, im freakin lonely. our relationship is suffering hardcore & we dont even have to time to fix it. he works till dark, gets home & we have stacks of obligations to do, wether it be finding papers for bankruptcy, writing estimates out, the list is endless. he stays up till 4am doing what i cant handle & so even if we do have a spare 2 hrs in the afternoon one day, hes nodding out from exhaustion or there is an issue on my end.

any female advice or men's opinions would help enormously~
kiwicsi
kiwicsi
Are there any playgrounds, beaches, shops or anything nearby? A good distraction for you (not to spend, just to distract you) and a good place for your boy to have a change of scenery too.
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oh Gosh, I remember the day of hiding my car from the repo man. We did not file bankrupcy but worked really hard to get on track. We borrowed money from my mother and then busted our butts for a long time. We are finally above water and have our own business. Bankrupcy makes it impossible to get any loan or credit anywhere. Try your might not to do that, even if you have to get certified to do daycare in your home and keep a few kids to help pay the bills. I did house cleaning and took my baby with me.
Hang in there and lots of hugs.
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we are a little too far "in" to try to backpedal....i really like the park idea even though it isnt super close....i better get use to walking :) thank you both
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Try to think of this moment as a snapshot in time...Imagine yourself looking back on it together and being so grateful that you pulled through it by sticking it out...for you both and for your baby. With that image in mind, take the smallest moments in the middle of the stress and the paperwork and the bill paying...and give your husband a big hug and let him know that you are thankful you have him and that he has you to go through this with.

Just a brief moment of reflection and affection and remembered appreciation can do a lot to bolster a relationship that is suffering from the stresses of life. You may not have too many spare moments, but make the most of stolen ones if you have to.

Your family will be stronger for this in the end. Keep that snapshot in your mind, and keep looking at it from a future place--a place that resulted from the direction you would most wish it to. That can help sustain you.

I understand the financial burdens, the isolation of parenting all alone all day long...I have struggled with this too...but I didn't have a partner to go through it with. He left when our daughter was 4 months old. I can tell you this...I wish for all the world I had a solid family structure for my daughter.

Do everything you can to hold on and make it out of this difficult time. It is always easier when you have someone you love to get through it with.

Between the two of you--and it sounds as if you do work together in getting done what needs to be done--you WILL survive and make it to better days.
kiwicsi
kiwicsi
Good suggestions from Wyatt. Cali4nia, do you have any friends or relatives that you could trust to loan you some money? (Yes, I mean that you trust, not vice versa, since you don't want someone lending you dough and then breathing down your neck every 5 min). Might help with the backpedalling a bit.
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Sunwasblue~ your words were touching ;) and thanks bunches to everyone~ xOxOx
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