i don't know about anyone else but myself but for years i allowed that little voice in my head that told me my art wasn't good enough, that i wasn't smart enough, or talented enough to hold me back and keep me from pursuing my dreams. The tricky thing about that voice, which i call my inner critic, is that it wasn't consistent, and sometimes not even there, so for me it was difficult to even think there was a possiblity of silencing it, so i suffered threw away countless art work, crumbled up my writing, and passed up many a chances or opportunites that i was more than qualified for. Then i realised something. Life is 95% reaction and only 5% action. Our lives pretty much is a series of reactions, and when i looked at my life from that perspective i discovered something i'd never dreamed of. That if i choose not to listen (react) to the inner critic like i always have, and defied it, that it might turn things around a bit. And it did, only at first the inner critic puts up a fight, for it was used to controling me for so long, that it didn't like the idea of all the sudden believing in myself or risk taking, and i found that when it started in, you knowing saying things like you are too fat to wear those jeans when in reality i wasn't and i started thinking postively, using positive affrimations daily, pretending until i actually came to believe them, and in myself. I found that the inner critic became weaker and weaker, and the voice that once controlled me and kept me in this state of crippling depression, was getting fainter and fainter, until i could barely even hear it! I know this probably sounds totally crazy, i mean, hearing voices, talking back to them!?! But it is true. If you do not believe me, try this. for one week, every morning and every night before you go to bed tell yourself in the mirror a positive affrimation.... like 1. I am a strong independant woman. 2. I am beautiful and i deserve love. 3. I am whole and perfect in every way as god intended for me this day 4. I am strong of heart and mind. 5. I am a survivor and i will survive this. Just try it, and you will find that the more you tell yourself something the more you will believe it, it certainly worked when for me, telling myself that i was worthless or stupid, or deserved what i got, or that i was ugly or fat. Try doing it with positive things, it works just as well. Choose your reactions, don't just accept them, you have the power to change them! Just thought i'd share something that works for me. Good luck!
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