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tell me what 2do

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I found out yesterday that my boyfriend of 7yrs has been stealing money out of my creditcard account for the fith time since weve been together. I have told him everytime this has happened that i get very upset when he does this and i cannot afford to pay it back. I pay all the rent, he earns more than me and he only has 2bills to pay. Would you split up with him? I dont know what to do i dont know if i can cope on my own. A friend has said that he would rent my house with me or i can live with my mum again but its so hard to make a decicion when weve been thru so much together. Should i forgive him again or split up. Help me...
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Five times and he's still going back for more?

What makes you think that he will change if you stay with him?
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i guess i dont think he will change... more that i would have to put up with it
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Putting up with that for .... forever?

Maybe you should think about whats best for YOU, just you.
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maybe your right
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get rid of him dear, he will never change. if you signed a lease on your house you are stuck for the rent till the lease runs out. have him move out and try a different room mate or move back to moms, a better idea. once a thief, always a thief. good luck sweetie, gram
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I think I would change all of my account info without telling him and then kick him to the curb. What a terrible betrayal!
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I would change all my accounts and not give him the information.
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Forgiveness comes from within you. Not what I can tell you to do. If you love him and feel that he is worth your forgiveness than you can try. But, he should be pulling his weight around there. It is not for you to keep him. He should keep himself and be a productive member of the household. You are not his mom. Tell him that he needs to pay more than just the 2 bills. Tell him that if he ever steals from you again that you will press charges. Harsh I know but he hasnt learned from past experiences not to steal from you. I wish you much luck and strength.
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If a friend that you care about dearly came to you with this same problem, what would you tell her to do?
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he has got to go... and call the police if it's a lot of money.... fuck'em
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why is he stealing is there a problem but after five times he will not change i say get out now
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It sounds like you know what you need to do.... You will be fine with out him.... things will be easier because you wont have to take care of him any more. Take cre of you buddy!
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If I were you, I'd get out of that relationship in a flash! Definitely change your accounts and then I'd say its over. Money is one of leading causes of divorce. How much debt will he put you in if you were to marry?

And if you don't have trust, what do you have?

If he steals from you, who else does he steal from?

Some things to consider.
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If he has stolen from you several times and you don't know what to do, then nobody else can help you. Obviously you need to dump his sorry ass. He is using you and you should value yourself more than that. Any self respecting person wouldn't put up with that for 2 seconds.
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