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Maybe this will help some of you & this is my opinion based on being here for over a year & as a suicide survivor (Mother):
Most people that want to die by their own hand, just go and do it silently. They do not want to be stopped. They have a plan & do not let anybody know about it. My Mother committed suicide when I was 15 yrs. old at age 41. She did it quietly when we were at school & Dad was at work. No cries for help, no note, nothing.
About 9 mos. ago, another member here sent me a pm that he was going to kill himself & to notify the police in his state where to find the body. I FREAKED - but I did not notify the police because I went with my gut instinct that he was not going to go through with it & I also did not want to get that involved due to my family. He did not go through with it - went to the ER and is doing fine now.
I am not minimizing a suicidal cry for help. It is always better to be safe then sorry but remember please that YOU come first. We cannot save a person that will stop at nothing to do it. What we can do is offer hugs, support, prayers and love.
Thank you for reading, Jazzie x
Most people that want to die by their own hand, just go and do it silently. They do not want to be stopped. They have a plan & do not let anybody know about it. My Mother committed suicide when I was 15 yrs. old at age 41. She did it quietly when we were at school & Dad was at work. No cries for help, no note, nothing.
About 9 mos. ago, another member here sent me a pm that he was going to kill himself & to notify the police in his state where to find the body. I FREAKED - but I did not notify the police because I went with my gut instinct that he was not going to go through with it & I also did not want to get that involved due to my family. He did not go through with it - went to the ER and is doing fine now.
I am not minimizing a suicidal cry for help. It is always better to be safe then sorry but remember please that YOU come first. We cannot save a person that will stop at nothing to do it. What we can do is offer hugs, support, prayers and love.
Thank you for reading, Jazzie x
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It's few and far between that I ever contemplate taking my own life...and I must admit, I really felt like I wanted to a few weeks ago. But rather than actually DOING it, I came on DS looking for people to talk me out of it. And yes, of course, you did. But had I not had a way of saying "I hate myself and I want to die" so that it could be heard and felt and sympathized with, I would have done it...or at least came close to doing so.
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Suicide notes/ calls/ whatever, should not be interpruted as non-threatening. Even if the person is NOT seriously a risk to themself they are obviously thinking about it. I'm guessing you are not qualified to make a judgement about a person's state of mind. You should not be so dismissive of people's feelings and you should not be so insensative to their thoughts.
If Im not in the spirit to help at the time, I will avoid it until Im up to try and help.. Either way, suicidal or not.. Its very sad to me.. Y'Vonne
But I do think, as you say, those that have made up their mind to die will keep it to themselves so as not to hurt those around them beforehand. Doesn't mean others that are suicidal are less likely because they want people to know. They just want things to be different, but because they're not feel they have no choice. And being suicidal and reaching the decision to finish it are separate.