
Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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I get sick and tired of hearing my boyfriend tell me not to use my depression as an excuse.
You see, I was on Zoloft and everything was going fine, but then I went off my medication for a bit to try other things, and I basically zoomed down into the worst pain inside that I've had in a long while.
Well, I am sleeping a lot, I quit my job, and I am pretty withdrawn. I don't really feel like explaining to my boyfriend 400 times why I feel down. I don't know? How am I supposed to know? Worse off, my boyfriend is the type that thinks I should just overcome my problem.
I'm totally miserable right now, b/c I have to rely on my friends and family to help with money and it takes sooo long to even get a job.
Why should I have to explain to anyone how I feel? I don't really have any friends and I don't really have a supportive family. No one understands, and I am just so damn sick of it. I feel like I am losing it and on my last straw here.
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You see, I was on Zoloft and everything was going fine, but then I went off my medication for a bit to try other things, and I basically zoomed down into the worst pain inside that I've had in a long while.
Well, I am sleeping a lot, I quit my job, and I am pretty withdrawn. I don't really feel like explaining to my boyfriend 400 times why I feel down. I don't know? How am I supposed to know? Worse off, my boyfriend is the type that thinks I should just overcome my problem.
I'm totally miserable right now, b/c I have to rely on my friends and family to help with money and it takes sooo long to even get a job.
Why should I have to explain to anyone how I feel? I don't really have any friends and I don't really have a supportive family. No one understands, and I am just so damn sick of it. I feel like I am losing it and on my last straw here.
:(
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i want to cuss out my boyfriend's friends b/c they tell him he shouldn't marry me and that i have issues. for heaven's sake, it's depression and i've had it all of my life.
i've tried getting help and i am on medication, but sometimes i go through phases. i constantly quit jobs, which makes things so incredibly difficult.
i am constantly getting yelled at for sleeping so much right now, but i can't think of a reason right now why i should want to get up.
I know exactly how you feel....my parents are exactly the same. They get angry at me if I am crying for no reason and even more angry if my excuse is that I cant control it. They don't understand that we literally cant control it, it is a chemical inbalance in our bodies that messes with our emotions. I hope this helps a bit.
If your BF isn't supportive and understanding of your illness and how it effects you now, how do you think the relationship will fair once you are married?
As much as it pisses you off, the BF's friends do have a valid point.
It's possible that you're in a manic depressive phase at the moment and it will pass in time.
he gets stressed out having to pay for me a lot and he's so sensitive that he thinks everything i say when i'm in a mood is directed at him and it's not.
it makes it hard to want to marry someone who totally doesn't understand, but he's done so much for me in other ways.
sometimes he just gets out of line, though, and he'll cuss and call me a loser or something.
I wish you luck. I hope you are able to feel better soon and stay connected with your BF. At the very least, it seems like there are a lot of people here that can understand your plight.
I just want to sleep or play on the computer. My therapist says I am too demanding of myself. That if working part time is what I need right now then so be it.
Now that is not to say I don't wish it were different. I would love to be one of those people who strives on stress. I wish I were one of those bubbly giggly people. (Or maybe not!)
I agree that your boyfriend should research depression himself. Then in the list of symptoms he could see immediately that you aren't using this as an excuse. Sadness, sleepiness, insomnia, etc. But the truth is a lot of people don't believe depression is an illness (just remember Tom Cruise!) So maybe he will never get it but maybe, just maybe he will.
(Oh and Iswallowed my pride this week and applied for food stamps. I understand that part too! Needing help is a hard thing to admit in any situation, asking for it is even more difficult)
i've tried telling my boyfriend to research depression and he will just tell me i need to do research and that people with problems overcome them.
lately his nasty comments are, "you have no life, you do nothing," which is pretty much how my parents treated me. i was worthless and did nothing.