
Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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hey,
I was curious of other people's opinions and/or experiences of being stigmatisied.
Pull yourself together? familiar...? Lazy, now that's a very familiar one.
Physical symptoms of depression can be oversleeping (even up to 14/16hrs a day) as well as not sleeping. Lethargy, really feeling physically incapable of doing anything.
So yes, there is a valid reason that depressed people may appear lazy. However, it can also become very easy to wallow in depression, do nothing...So perhaps in as much as I don't dispute the illness, we also are probably guilty of an element of laziness. Because, it's easier that having to cope with thing's we sometimes instead stay in our comfort zone, never moving forward, not getting better.
Maybe, we should force ourselves outside the comfort zone, realise that stigma effects every aspect of life (not just mentally ill), and ignore it, move on, maybe even get better...
Cheers, Annie
I was curious of other people's opinions and/or experiences of being stigmatisied.
Pull yourself together? familiar...? Lazy, now that's a very familiar one.
Physical symptoms of depression can be oversleeping (even up to 14/16hrs a day) as well as not sleeping. Lethargy, really feeling physically incapable of doing anything.
So yes, there is a valid reason that depressed people may appear lazy. However, it can also become very easy to wallow in depression, do nothing...So perhaps in as much as I don't dispute the illness, we also are probably guilty of an element of laziness. Because, it's easier that having to cope with thing's we sometimes instead stay in our comfort zone, never moving forward, not getting better.
Maybe, we should force ourselves outside the comfort zone, realise that stigma effects every aspect of life (not just mentally ill), and ignore it, move on, maybe even get better...
Cheers, Annie
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As for we should -- one of the signs of depression are those should's . The stigma is very powerful thing, sometimes even if you do whatever you can, you have to work twice as harder to be even seen.
But, i was kind of saying that people conform to a stigma more often than not, because it's the easier option.
So, if you depressed, lethargic, tired, it's a much harder fight each day to be optimistic and perhaps easier to dwell.
No criticism, I feel as guilty of this as anyone else may or may not. But I just can't help but sometimes feel that depressed people (me included) don't help ourselves enough. Yes, stigma is unecessary. But, opinion is always a freedom of right.
Hence, why I said before, ignore the stigma, move on, maybe even get better...
Annie, again
that which doesn't break you,...makes you stronger. True. Agreed k73.
But, wasn't really the entire point.
Annie
Monica
if you read my post carefully, i've already said that the physical concequences of depression are real and undisputed.
I'm saying that the problem lies in our mind and affects our bodies. Both work in requirement, and harmony or disharmony with each other.
So, I was saying change our outlook, maybe change others outlook... then perhaps the stigma disapate's.
Annie
Personally I think this culture is way too stressed out because people think that if they're just doing something, anything that gives their lives meaning.
I was a workaholic for a long time. Lousy way to live. I like being lazy.
I was saying embrace yourself. Stigma, will forever be there and not just for mentally ill, but it doesn't have to effect us. IF we fight against it.
Annie
I have personal example-- I have social anxiety and left one party-- head of department changed my fall assignment, deciding that I cannot work with students and will check only papers, but won't teach. My own adviser-- who knows about my mental staff (head does not know) instead of standing up for me, whent to the head and let her know, stating that head made very right decision about me. If my advisor did not know about staff-- the things would stay much better than they currently are. And often just my physical illness-- flu or something else seen as depression. I often feel that my adviser speaks me as I was mentally retarded.
xoxo Di
that's sounds unfair what happened in your workplace.
Theres usually legislation in place to try and deal with such matters,in U.K. the 'Disability Discrimination Act, 1995.
Have a look at this link.
http://www.thesite.org/workandstudy/working/workwelfare/mentalhealthatwork
Even if your based in another country, there will be a similar goevrning bodies deal with these issues.
Annie
As for my advisor speaking-- she will state that I have low learning ability and she tries to explain to me her best. Proof-- she failed me at qualification exam-- consequently I have low learning ability and seen as such by everybody else. Again-- on a surfice it will extremely difficult to proof stigmatizing as mentally ill.
One more case-- my reexamination was not checked for 5 weeks, even though the comittee told me it will be done in three weeks. When I asked what is going on with my exam grading I got the answer-- Please do not worry and not be scared, nothing bad happened, do not worry, it just we did not check the exam yet. I bet that if the department did not know about my illness, the answer was -- the exam not checked yet. Without mentioning anxiety and other my staff. Frankly, it feels bad.