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Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

deleted_user
Well it was yet again another lonely day without my husband. He came home monday from working a 24 hour shift. He stayed up for a little bit then laid down about an hour before dinner. He woke up ate and went back to bed. He woke up at eight yesterday morning long enough for me to go to my therapy and come home at 10:15 then went back to bed and slept until three. He got up watched me work in the yard and played on the computer. We at dinner together bathed the kids and put them to bed. After they were in bed he left to go hang out at the fire house. He still wasnt home at 12:30 when I went to bed. I got up this morning got his kids ready for school put them on the bus and started the rest of my day. I tried to wake him up at 10:30 and he said he wanted to get up at 12:30. So I got his twin daughters off the bus at 11:00 fed them lunch all the while taking care of my kids too and my niece. Finnaly got him up and I had to get him coffee and it took him until after one to really get up and start moving. The kids get out of school two hours early every wed. So at 2:00 I had to get them from the bus. He left at 4:00 to take a pumps class at his work for the new fire trucks. So I took care of my kids and his kids yet again. I made dinner and all that fun stuff. My daughter still has a fever so she is whiney. My son was throwing temper tantrums for no reason again. He got mad cause I wouldnt let him have my cell phone when I went to take a pic of him being cute. My husband got back home from class at 8:30. He headed off to the bathroom. I got the kids ready for bed. He got on the internet and was looking at his firehouses website. We got the kids into bed. I told him I was going to do dishes and mop up the mess from dinner on the floor from the baby throwing his food. He said im going to the fire house for a little while. Who knows when he is going to get home. He asked me what was wrong and I told him I just want him to spend time with me. He said he would tommorow then I asked if it was only because of our nieces birthday party tommorow night. He said no and I stayed home monday night. Yeah he stayed home monday night but he slept the whole time. I am just so frustrated and hurt. I am tired of being alone. It makes me feel like I am not good enough. I dont know if I should have brought all this up here but my friends are getting tired of hearing about it. We have talked about seperating during the many times he has looked at me and put me down or the many times he has told me he wants a divorce and cant stand to be around me. I just cant leave yet. I have no job and cant really get one right now not with my hysterectomy coming up at the beggining of May so I cant leave because I have no money. But thats what my friends keep telling me to do. My husband has also told me he is going to take custody of our son away from me if we split up. I cant lose my son. He has never really had anything to do with the boy anyway. Just the fun stuff like playing but thats if hes even around to do that. I just dont know what to do anymore. I hate hurting I hate feeling rejected. Please tell me what I should do. And please no arguing and fighting :) I have enough of that at home.

deleted_user
I don't know that I have any advice at the moment but I can lend you my shoulder to cry on. I'm so sorry you're feeling down right now. I'll pray that things get better for you soon. Hang in there and keep posting here. I'll be happy to read your posts and give you support. :-)

BeckyK
I'm sitting here right next to GreatDaneMom! You can cry on my sholder! I am sure there are a lot more people willing to listen, who knows someone might have a really good suggestion!

SeekingKnowledge
I understand that spiraling downward feeling. It's awful. Your plates very full. Have you considered marriage counseling? I'm not telling you what to do, but all I can say is that if you decide to leave him, you need a plan. Get a job, and try and gain independence. Believe in yourself. Not saying it's going to be easy, but you have to decide what kind of stress you want in your life. Either it's the stress of the relationship or the stress of being alone and counting on yourself. I was in your situation. I wasn't happy in my marriage for a long time, and stuck it out because of the kids. For me that was the wrong reason. You deserve to be happy, and need to do what's best for you. Kids are resilient. I also know that I wanted them to know what a healthy relationship was. My parents should have divorced. They were miserable. My dad was an abusive alcoholic. All I'm saying is you need to do what makes you happy. Life is too short.

deleted_user
Thanks you guys. We have tried counseling twice now. I have tried for a long time to get him to seek help. I think he has depression because I see similar signs with him that I saw in myself. Me and my therapist have talked about seperating and the things I need to do for myself. I love my husband very much but I have told him I cant keep doing this with my emotions. But Im scared. I have Cancer so I have to have this sugury. The worst part is she has to do it abdominaly so that increases my recouperation(sp) time. I have even tried to get the date moved up so I can move on faster. Then depending what pathology says I might need chemo or radiation next. I do have an oncologist picked out. I just never thought I would have Depression and Cancer and have so few people close to me for help and support. I actually stumbled upon this site looking for cancer support. But I found you guys. I dont think I could ever thank yall enough. Its nice being able to put all of my feelings into words without being cut off or getting some type of negative attitude.

deleted_user
Your husband sounds like a sleepy ghost that occasionally makes a showing in the house. He actually sounds like a teen age boy. They sleep a lot and they want to take off to see their friends. Maybe he is depression but he isn't willing to do anything about it apparently. Just bid your time until you can leave and then go. You already have a number of kids you don't need a teen ager too.

deleted_user
well i know just how you feel most of the time but i hope it get's better for you soon.

deleted_user
I used to be married to a PA state trooper...he used to tell me he would get custody of our son cuz he was gonna tell them I was crazy. (I was going to counsiling at the time...he thought that meant I was nuts)...guess who got custody...don't believe that shit...they only do that to intimidate u and keep u under their thumb.

deleted_user
oh yeah...he probably isn't goin to the firehouse either...mine was goin to another woman's arms..u might want to look into that
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