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I am feeling so terrible today. After a bad break up, i thought i would meet up with a guy i thought was my friend, so instead of supporting me, he decides to start kissing me etc....
There was no way in hell that i wanted that, i was pulling away as hard as i could but he just kept kissing me, without me kissing him back.
It has made me feel dirty and disgusting, even though it didnt go any further than that, because i got up and left.
All i can think of is my ex, i feel like i need him, i need to be protected.
I am hating myself so much right now. So i text my ex and asked if he def wanted nothing to do with me. He said we are better of apart. I asked if i could see him so we can talk.
Then out of my surprise which totally ripped my heart out. He said he couldnt cos he was going to ikea, to get stuff for this house that i was supposed to be moving into with him, with a girl called Joanne.

I feel so useless...
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oh darling your not useless!!!!

he's just a bastard!!!!!
youll feel better soon i promise
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Ehhh! Well fuck? I feel your pain! Time for a new guy. He is more than obviously done with you. And feeling good right now. Much like you yourself should be
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thanks so much for your replys. How do i get my confidence back, and how do i start to feel good again?
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realize that you have worth because there is no else like you in the whole world. why do you think you are nothing without a man? (There is a great book titled that...good read) Love yourself first...
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dont know? im struggling with that aswell.
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Sorry about your experiences with those two fine examples of the male species. Take it from me sweetheart, we're not all like that. Some of us are truly gentlemen. Always remember something, you're NOT responsible for how other ppl treat you, keep that in mind always. If they want to be a--holes and jerks, let it be on them, turn and walk away. Don't consider even for a minute that you have in someway warranted this type of abuse. And remember, what goes around, comes around, at some point. Keep your chin up and treat ppl the way you want to be treated, you'll meet good ppl, just look at the group you found here. And please, for future reference be very careful who you agree to meet with in person, and even then make sure to do so in a controlled environment.
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Thanks for your comments. after all ive been through including being completely battered by one of my ex's. I know that not all blokes are the same. i think i just need to concentrate on myself, get myself better, and hopefully the right person will be there when i am alot better
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The most important thing to do is love yourself. Know that you did not do anyhthing to deserve that kind of treatment. Write a list of things you're thankful for. Write a list of things that you're good at. Write a list of things that make you feel good. Know that you can take care of yourself and give yourself credit for what you do. Pamper yourself. Make time for your girlfriends and family. Love yourself!
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while i still have a long way to go myself, i did that. i focused on me and worked on the worst of my own issues and after a while met a wonderful man that i have been with for almost 3 years now, married a yr and a 1/2. like i tell most ppl i know who have a lot going on.... work on you and when the time is right the right one will be there. and working on you... will make you feel better. you are not useless... just really hurt and sad and lonely. time will make that better and everyday will be a little easier. i am here if you need a shoulder.
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You're not useless, and you should NOT feel dirty or digusting. Your "friend" tried to take advantage of your pain. He tried to force you into something you didn't want, which is NOT your fault. I'm so sorry you're going through a break-up, but that happens to everyoneit doesn't mean you're any less a good person.
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Well, Sweety, some folks (men & women) just can't be depended on. The only person you can count on to be there for you ALL the time is yourself. Start by looking in the mirror.. deep into your eyes, and tell yourself all the loving things you want to hear from others. NO negative..all the words you need are within you... just do this one little thing each morning and in no time, you'll understand it's TRUE!!
Love yourself first and others will love you when they see that in you.
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I think LyndaC1947 is right - work on loving yourself first and a happy and healthy relationship may show up on your doorstep. Also, don't ever let yourself feel useless because you are looking for love - we all deserve to be loved.
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It is a long hard road, but just keep telling yourself that you deserve better, you are a good person. Right after my husband left me I got raped by a guy I thought was my friend. I still have nightmares. Even though I am on speaking terms with my ex, he doesn't seem to care. You are not useless, its not your fault, It will gat better.
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thankyou so much for all your advice and support. I need all the support i can get right now
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you are better off without him...he's a fucking lying cheat...who deserves no respect. He didn't bother to tell you he wanted to break ti off until he had somone else in the picture...loser!
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