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deleted_user
deleted_user
I was so excited last night because my husband was off work. Well like always it didnt turn out anywhere close to what I wanted. As soon as he came home from class the first thing he did was start playing playstation. I finnaly went to be around one all pouty and sad. Then around three my husband comes in with my son and puts my son in bed with me. Says he fell out of bed and couldnt get him to go back to sleep. So needless to say my husband ended up sleeping on the couch. Now since he has to work tonight hes asleep now in my bed. I mean I try really hard to be a good wife. I make sure hes fed before work or class. He has clean clothes, a clean house, happy healthy clean kids, and I wait on him hand and foot. I mean I cant remember the last time he has filled up his own coffee cup. I am an attractive woman who takes care of herself. Granted im a little heavy set now but thats due to things I cant control. I say to him I want you to spend some time with me. Or can we cuddle on the couch and watch a movie? But nothing. Its so hurtful. Is there something wrong with me? Am I doing something wrong? I was so excited last night because he was off work. Just to get my hopes up and have them shot down like always.
meandthebeast
meandthebeast
How long have you been married? Sorry to say but men are in a different world then we are. For some reason alot of them do not know how to show affection. That is after the honeymoon wears off
deleted_user
deleted_user
nothings wrong with you lilly he's an idiot
deleted_user
deleted_user
Have you tried not doing everything for him? he looks to me as if he is taking you for granted. I'd sit him down with a list of things you are not happy about and tell him why. It might help. xx
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have been married two years. Three years in march.
Hapless
Hapless
The more you do for men and kids the more they expect. He is taking advantage of you at your cost. Try to sit him down and tell him what's going on and then show him if it doesnt work@!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I literally stopped cleaning and doing laundry to see how long it took for him to realize. 2 months!! It sucked, I did get a brand new wardrobe out of it though. When he approached me I explained that I was tired of being his housemaid. I guess he got the hint, the next day I came home to a clean house and dinner on the table. We have split the chores since,
deleted_user
deleted_user
I will try to talk to him. Dont know how well it will go because I get the well im working and going to school and you dont do anything all day because you stay home. Tried the "strike" thing but that just back fired in my face. The house never got clean and he ran his mouth saying that I was just a lazy bitch. That he had to come home and do everything around the house while he worked all day. But then again he tried saying that before me going on strike. Told his family that he was doing everything around the house when in reality he never lifted a finger. I love him to death im just so tired of it all.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Have you tried approaching him about "date nights"? Or, with regards to how you feel in general...
deleted_user
deleted_user
yes I have tried that. But with having five kids living full time in our home its really hard. My step daughters mom lives out of state so I dont even get a break on the weekend from them like I do my daughter. I havent had a date with my husband since May. Now hes working and in paramedic courses its even harder. I dont want alot just a little bit of his time. You know instead of coming home from class and playing playstation sit and talk with me for a while. I was sitting there sketching last night when he came home and he usally makes a comment about my work. He didnt even acknowledge that.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh Lilly, that is tough. Sounds like you both may be stressed out. Keep the lines of communication open if possible.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thanks gem I will try talking to him again. I just feel so down today.
ChiTownBear
ChiTownBear
yeh, nothing like feeling all by yourself in a house full of people. He is working a lot and cant see outside of that. YOu are home all day with the kids and needing some adult interaction. The only thing you can do is not talk, but act. Instead of saying date night, find something you both will like to do and say, let's do this. Figure out a way to have the kids tended to that day or night and just get it together and go.

There would be times my ex would pout, or stomp around the house and I didnt know what was wrong as she wouldnt tell me. I found out once it was cus she wanted to see the Blue Man Group, but because I made a comment about a commercial I saw, she felt I was saying I aint going and didnt care, when she never told me she wanted to even go.

be direct, but not manipulative. Manipulation will make it worse.
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