My sister called today and wants me and my boys to go to her place for Christmas. I had planned to be at home just me and my boys. Life is very hard right now and I am so very sad and depressed. I needed her this summer and she wasn't there for me, didn't call me for the whole summer. Now she wants to have Christmas at her place and I am supposed to be all happy and go. I don't have much for money, I already told her I wasn't getting anyone presents and I sure don't want to go there with nothing to give to anyone. Plus it's a 4 hour drive and gas has really gone up here again. It's always me that is supposed to travel, I get that they have cows and they just can't go away but the expense is always on me. I am still hurting over getting nothing on my birthday, not even a phone call! I have done so much for her but get nothing back, now I will feel guilty if I don't go. My boys are acting horrible these days too and I just don't feel like taking them anywhere away from home. See I am making so many excuses not to go, is it really worth the trip? It will her husbands family that will be there and I always feel out of place. I am the loser sister with the two kids and no husband/boy friend, always the fifth wheel kind of thing. Plus I hate that I have been the topic of discussion too many times, no one forgets when I mess up, I still get questioned about stuff that happend years ago, ghosts that I would like left alone! My sister suffers from depression and has for 20 years, I feel bad if I let her down and don't go. What to do what to do?
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