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Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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How do I build self-esteem? I am so negative and so down on myself. I hate it. It's pushing everyone away. It all seems to be a downward spiral. I'm so jealous of my husband's life because he seems so happy. Which makes me feel even worse...I don't want him to be sad. I just wish it were me that made him most happy. I need my own life. I want to be strong and not care what others think. How do I learn to be strong? How do I love myself? How do I stop being so selfish?
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I need those same answers as you. My self-esteem took a nosedive when my husband threw me away for his ex-wife just because she showed up! I was very pregnant at the time and have felt worthless since. Although we reconciled, our life is not a bed of roses. I just feel like ...what is SO wrong with me that he could do me that way? ya know?! So that's what I've been struggling with. I look in the mirror and think ...hey I'm okay, then I'll look again and think I'm disgusting. I know it comes from within I just don't know how to feel better, worthy, pretty, etc.
Also, why do you think you're selfish???? Hugs.
I don't have much advice but I do have a great friend who knows how depressed I am and she makes it a point to get me out to do things and go jogging 2x a week. I don't want to let her down so I go out and I always feel better but I DO understand the selfish part. You are so used to giving to everyone that to take any time for yourself seems so foreign and well, selfish! I have noticed that with age I care a little bit less what others think but I believe I will always care a little more than the average person because that is just how I am. Like I said I don't have much advice because I feel like you and I are one in the same but you can vent to me anytime!! Keep your head up...you have a full house to juggle and I'm sure, considering how consciencious you seem to be, you are doing a wonderful job!
I'm not happy all the time by any stretch of the imagination. I'm bipolar with major depression and this is the worst time of yr for me normally.
I started out small by walking once a day. Then it went to 4 x's a day after a while. Lost alot of weight doing this and not eating as much. That made me feel better.
Changed my hair, get my nails done ect.... But I have a very negative alcoholic hubby which drags me down.
You have a lovely family. The older you get I think you stop worrying about what others think of you as much. Not sure how old you are but I'm 44 now.
I know, you want to be the one that makes him happy. I'm sure you do! To build yourself up...
I would try small things. Like taking a walk, think of things about you, you like, ...are you in therapy? That has helped me the most than these dreaded meds I think.
I am totally honest in there too. Which is the only way to be in therapy. Get it all out on the table.
Again, you are NOT selfish!!
Also, its human nature to be selfish. We only ever do that which benefits us, fortunately most people feel that the common welfare benefits themselves.
As far as your negatism, remember you
do have an illness, that causes the
brain to respond the way it does.
Maybe you wouldn't feel so selfish, if
you can give your husband time to
speak of whatever has gone on in his
life that day as well. Maybe even
start a conversation off, using
What, Where, Why. I think he will open
up. Then you won't feel like it is a
one-sided conversation.
As far as feeling stronger about
myself, I tell myself every day :"I want
to be a strong." I think by saying this
to yourself, you will learn to build
more self-confidence in you.
Good Luck with this.
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