
Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Hi. I'm new to this site and I could really use some advice.I'm starting university this fall and I had to move into a house with 5 other students. I only know one of the roomies well because we are good friends, but I dont know anyone else. Today I went and met all my roomies and well ever since, I can't help but feel upset. They are all so pretty and confident and outgoing. Then there's me. I'm the ugly duckling. I'm not pretty or outgoing or confident. I dont belong with these people at all. In fact,I dont think I belong with anybody anymore. I dont dress like them or act like them. I don't want to change myself to be like them either...
We went to a bar together yesterday. They invited a ton of their friends so naturally I was a bit nervous. Now not only did I have to try and get along with my future roomates, but I had to get along with all their friends too. Everyone was buying drinks for everyone else, but me. Everyone was taking pictures and laughing and singing. Guess what I was doing? Nothing. Dont get me wrong, at first I tried, very hard, to be a part of the "group". I laughed and smiled politely. Ordered a drink. Tried to talk about something, anything, but after a few moments, I was left to sit there and watch others have the best time of their life. I dont know if you have every been in a situation like that before, but it feels just awful. It was like I was invisible.
Im sorry this is so long, but I need to get this off my chest. I need some help on what to do. I have to spend the next 8 months with these people so I need to get along with them. I dont want to be an ugly duckling anymore. I dont want to be the sad and lonely girl in the corner of the bar. I want to be someone. All my life I've been told I need to do this and do that. Lose weight, change my clothes, cut my hair... ect. ect. ect. I'm so tired of it. I just want to be me. Whomever that may be.
We went to a bar together yesterday. They invited a ton of their friends so naturally I was a bit nervous. Now not only did I have to try and get along with my future roomates, but I had to get along with all their friends too. Everyone was buying drinks for everyone else, but me. Everyone was taking pictures and laughing and singing. Guess what I was doing? Nothing. Dont get me wrong, at first I tried, very hard, to be a part of the "group". I laughed and smiled politely. Ordered a drink. Tried to talk about something, anything, but after a few moments, I was left to sit there and watch others have the best time of their life. I dont know if you have every been in a situation like that before, but it feels just awful. It was like I was invisible.
Im sorry this is so long, but I need to get this off my chest. I need some help on what to do. I have to spend the next 8 months with these people so I need to get along with them. I dont want to be an ugly duckling anymore. I dont want to be the sad and lonely girl in the corner of the bar. I want to be someone. All my life I've been told I need to do this and do that. Lose weight, change my clothes, cut my hair... ect. ect. ect. I'm so tired of it. I just want to be me. Whomever that may be.
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i know u said u tried to be part of the group..yet at the same time, YOU said u didn't belong.
people sense this, darlin. u were uncomfortable and insecure..they felt that. and most likely had no clue how to relate.
u have to work on your self esteem....a start would be to stop refering to yourself as an ugly duckling.
xoxo Di