Trust is the foundation of relationships that mean the most to us, agree? I'm talking about people that we open our heart and soul to, and share our innermost self with, including our dark secrets. Most of us are lucky to have one or two relationships like this. What happens when such a "friend" breaks that trust? They reveal secrets to the public that we have shared with them, and them only. Would you trust them again? What if you did trust them again, and they broke that trust yet again? I'd say both people lose in that kind of situation. To trust someone completely is a heartwarming experience, one I have treasured in my life. Just talking about my own experience. I assume the same is true for you. To have that bond shattered by the trusted person is devastating, to say the least. To have the bond shattered the second time is even more than devastating.....it leaves one with the feeling that "you really can't trust anyone." So, how do both people lose? The one who has had their secrets violated ends up feeling that they can't trust anyone. The one who violated the trust of another loses a genuine friend, and even pretends they did nothing wrong, thereby setting themselves up for other failed relationships down the road with different friends. This dialog includes internet relationships as well. I'd like to point out that we are especially vulnerable in this forum, because all of our communications are typewritten, and become a record. I've actually had someone copy my communication, and then edit it to suit their attack, and then publish it!!! (In other words, some of the words published were mine, and some of the words were theirs, which put me in a negative light.) Scary stuff. So, the gist of this post is be careful who you trust and what you reveal. Even if you think it is your dearest friend, be careful. It could later be used against you. For all you know, that person is keeping extensive copies of your communications, and they might even brag about it in public. I don't mean to make anyone feel paranoid here, just be careful.
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