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Really down today

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My daughter has been with her dad for the last 24hrs and will be home soon. I don't want to feel so low when she comes in.
Although her dad and I are divorced, he part owns our home. He is now being threatened with bankruptcy and I could lose my house. I have sought legal advice but the news is not good.
I have struggled so hard to stay out of debt myself and now this creep has pulled the rug out from under my feet. How could he put his daughters home at risk?! The worst thing is he is so nonchalant about it. He just doesn't care. I hate him. Our daughter idolises her dad because I protect her from all this and I am so angry that she he's such a shit. I am powerless and so sad. I doubt anyone will be able to help me, I just have to accept it. Wot am I to do?????
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*hugs* I'm really really sorry to hear that... I don't know how to help :( but more *hugs*
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Thanku.x
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how old is your daughter. she might be old enough to be told that her dad is not all that he is cracked up to be. I had to do that with my son when he was about 8. you do not have to accept any of the shit he is putting on you.
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She's 9. I lost my dad when I was 15 and still miss him. Having her dad around has always been really important to me - for her sake. She is such a daddy's girl, I don't know that I can do that to her. And I don't want her to worry about us maybe losing our home. I'm sitting here crying, cos I feel so helpless and alone.
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Depending on the age of your daughter Id recommend talking to her.
Explaining it without malice or biase.
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A friend told me basically the same things but she managed to come out o.k. I think she talked to the banks and her divorce attorney. There is some protection for you and if you are going to be able to take over the mortgage, the last thing they want is to foreclose in today's economy.

Good luck. You can turn this around.
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Thanku all. I feel so dispondant.
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That has come out wrong. I don't mean u guys have made me feel dispondant. Thanku for listening to me.
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dads are very important in our childrens lives. they dont always make smart choices, or choices that are in the best interest of the kids. if it is getting to the point that you will have to find a new place to live then she needs to be told what is going on. it is better for her to have a bit of a warning than for it all to be a suprise.
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i think that IF you decide to say anything to your daughter, it has to be facts only. do not badmouth him because it will only make her feel worse and probably bad for her father. i know its no consolation, but she will open her eyes and see the truth when she gets a bit older. believe me, it DOES happen.
you dont want to involve her in adult problems unless of course like rnd pointed out. if you know your going to have to end up moving, its best to prepare her ahead of time.

as for the mortgage/house situation, i have no experience with that. i wish i could help with that.

lots of hugs, stay strong.
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