Depression Support Group
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therapists say that the first step to "healing" is accepting the problem and admitting to it.
i have a spending problem. i've linked spending with depression and depression with spending. every time i am depressed i spend...i admit it, and have told people. but they don't view it as a problem. to them, i'm spending just to spend.
do they think that i like having to owe thousands of dollars? i don't know how to explain it to them any other way...my therapist doesn't believe me, my mom doesn't believe me, my fiance doesn't believe me. they all say, "stop spending". but it they don't understand that it isn't that easy.
my mom smokes, so i thought she'd understand. she'd go outside, and say, "this is too much. i need a smoke"...
my therapist doesn't think that this is a problem at all...no advice, nothing.
my fiance and i got into an argument last night over this. no matter how i try to explain it...he doesn't understand. how can i make him understand what this is like for me...? how can i make him understand how hard it is for me?
he told me that he'll help me, but i need to promise that i won't do this again...i can't promise that right now...
i have a spending problem. i've linked spending with depression and depression with spending. every time i am depressed i spend...i admit it, and have told people. but they don't view it as a problem. to them, i'm spending just to spend.
do they think that i like having to owe thousands of dollars? i don't know how to explain it to them any other way...my therapist doesn't believe me, my mom doesn't believe me, my fiance doesn't believe me. they all say, "stop spending". but it they don't understand that it isn't that easy.
my mom smokes, so i thought she'd understand. she'd go outside, and say, "this is too much. i need a smoke"...
my therapist doesn't think that this is a problem at all...no advice, nothing.
my fiance and i got into an argument last night over this. no matter how i try to explain it...he doesn't understand. how can i make him understand what this is like for me...? how can i make him understand how hard it is for me?
he told me that he'll help me, but i need to promise that i won't do this again...i can't promise that right now...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Also have you looked around the net for people with a similar problem?
Maybe once you find others, your mum and fiance might start to believe you x
Also have you looked around the net for people with a similar problem?
Maybe once you find others, your mum and fiance might start to believe you x
Reply #1:
i thought bipolar disorder has to do with extreme highs and extreme lows that happen all of a sudden?
Reply #2:
shopping can really get me into a lot debt...
Reply #3:
i'll start searching for a new one...where should i start? the one i have now was referred...
Reply #4/5:
i joined the financial community...it just sucks that they don't believe me. it's not like i've ever lied to them before...
Reply #6:
now that you've pointed it out...it is like an addiction, huh?
THANK YOU, GUYS. you've really helped me to see things better. i don't feel like i'm confused between what i think and what i feel.
i feel more at ease knowing that i'm not so alone in this as i thought...
Keep us up to date and maybe try to find some sort of evidence to show to your mum/fiance x
I know what it's like to spend cuz it makes you feel better. It's extremely patronizing when people make it seem like it's a simple problem. I sympathize with you cuz I know it's hard.
My suggestion would be to see a credit counsellor. They'll put you on a plan to pay back what you owe and a budget. If you couple that with finding out the reason why you spend, you'll be on a decent path to getting things under control.
It won't happen over night and the most important thing is to never let people make you feel bad for feeling.
Oh yeah... it's there. I've only spent about 500 this year on beads. It is like an addiction.