i would do b. give her the one warning and that is it.

I definitely gave one yesterday, to do the activities that appropriate for kids. Today...It just repeated itself.

A= if the warnings have not worked.

Perhaps have a one-on-one with your Nanny to discuss your concerns, give her some ground rules, and note any consequences.

I don't know about involving your daughter. She is an innocent in this, and I can't help but feel you'd be putting her in the middle. If you do decide to replace the nanny your little one may experience some guilt thinking she contributed to it/did something wrong.

I have no experience with a nanny, so I would have to say that most of all, listen to your gut instinct as a parent.

I hope all turns out well for you and your little girl.

OOOO, my gut states STRONGLY I should fire her...What is this?

i agree, if the warning(s) dont work then fire her. this is your child!

I would say that it is your parental warning light going into overdrive, and that maybe you need to seriously look for other child care resources.

If your gut says "fire the nanny". You should do A. follow your gut that is your maternal instinct talking to you.

I was a nanny for several years. When I was hired I was given a verbal list of things I was expected to do and NOT do with the child(children). If I had some unavoidable need to do otherwise I called the parent and discussed it first. If I was still not able to do something I felt I needed it was my decision to quit or to get it done on my own time. Crossing those lines is grounds for dismissal and any good nanny would understand that.

Now I care for children in my own home and yet I still have rules I abide by. Both parents let me take the children on my own errands but one does not want me to leave town so I don't. In any case I always keep my own running to a minimum of one brief stop.

Caring for these children is my FIRST priority and if I have to wait to do something of my own until they are gone I simply must wait.
I can't imagine this nanny doesn't get that! Any office job has rules like that and time away from the office is not allowed unless already approved.

One good conversation should clear this up. If not, find someone who will honor your rules. After all she works for YOU!!!

Curious ... how old is your nanny, and is she a trained nanny/child care provider?

The thing is that she is also my daughter teacher in child care. I WILL fire her, if this stuff continues, but I did not planned to change my daughter's kindergarten, so I am not sure what to do.

She is women in her 40, has two own children and grand child, she is child care provider -- licensed with Montesory license. Working in YMCA child care center, having good recommendations and so on...

Hmmm then you'd think she would know better. Is it at possible that you meeting them at two stores was an isolated incident? Were the stores located on the way to the park or library? Maybe she was picking up some treats to take to the park with them?

Well, the thing is that two stores located like this-- food stor, library, the next store, so they definitely passed the library, and they passed two parkes with no playing on their way. She did not buy anything in first store and I am not sure what about the second store, the difference in time would be 15 minutes. So...

Do you have a contract with this nanny that outlines what is expected of her and also any ground rules? If your nanny has done something that you find unacceptable it would be better to discuss it with her rather than fire her off the cuff unless she has seriously placed your daughter in danger. If she has done something that places her in danger then I would expect that would warrant instant dismissal....but talk to her first.

Not being rude, but your english isn't the best (and yes I am aware that it is your 2nd language). It may be that there has been a misunderstanding or misinterpretation in your instructions to her.