Not ignoring this just havent been married so BUMP

i can't give the male point of view...but...
i stayed because i was scared to leave...
i think he never would have left because he had me right where he wanted me and his life was very comfortable...

I thought I was happily married... until she left... her loss I guess LOL I know I'm no help

sorry but if one or both of you are unhappy then its time to call it quits. staying together for the kids just makes things worse for them in the long run. Everyone deserves happiness it may hurt to end it but happiness cant happen unless you do

i stayed because i wanted his wages !!!!! im out of it now though. skint but happier.

Monetary losses, loss of children, house, car business.

For financial reasons and avoiding complications with grown-up children, seeing our grandchildren etc

All of these, and more, just wanted to keep my "family" together...............what a joke.

I am staying thus far in my unhappy marriage because I don't want to admit we failed. I don't want to fail at something I swore before god that I would do all in my power to keep together.

I was married to my HS boyfriend, we were together for 26 years total, then I left him.
He was a "functioning alcoholic", did 2 - 3 twelve packs a day
He was mean and verbally and physically abusive when drinking hard liquor
He had 4 affairs in our marriage
He never held a job for very long
He blew money without worrying about paying bills first.

I stayed because:
1. I believed my wedding vows
2. I thought I could change him lol NOT
3. I thought it was best for my 2 sons to have a whole family....umm..Not
4. I had a lot of medical illnesses and am BiPolar so even though I was the one with the College Degrees and the breadwinner in our family, he had a way of making me think I couldn't do it on my own without him.

Turned out I handled it just fine, love living by myself, he couldn't handle it though and was with another woman in the 4th month of our separation when we were supposed to be working on our issues to maybe get back together. I was over it at that point and wished him well as he became his 300 lb. redneck, white trash wife's 4th husband. They're currently working on their issues and things aren't looking good, lol, she finally figured out it really wasn't my fault he's a drunk! Go Figure.

I fully believe in Karma!

Make View I stay because she's disabled and has no where to go and no one else to help her i have been miserable for years but wont leave someone in that condition even while she bitches and complains she cant do much of anything so I do everything and my heart keeps me going would love to hear suggestions thanks.