high five........liz xo

i'm with you testycat, one of the reason i just read here and dont post. thanks for posting!!

If ur regarding the happasalark posts, i think ppl have a right 2 know wot this man is like. If it was my daughter getting sucked in like believer in hope i would wot her & other young ones 2 know that there is a man like this on the prowel.

The message in this post is something I agree with but is also a message that has been repeated ad nauseaum. The other day I decided to post only if I thought what I was posting was helpful and positive. I already had to bite my tongue a few times today but I held true to my committment. If everyone agreed to post non-hurtful messages, this board would be so much for the better.

i think she is talking about what she went through on the board Mandy...??

Ditto!!!!!!!!

Please read the november !st post and join in

I don't agree with name calling & hurting ppl 2 but wot im saying is there's young inoccent girls on here that need 2 be warned. Alarm bells have bin ringing in my head a while regarding happyasalark. I got a message bout a month ago off a lady won't go into names but she told me 2 take my pictures ov my kids off here due 2 happyasalark which was under another name then. Im not here 2 diss or hurt anyone i have come 2 ds coz i have depression & want support & support others but ppl like him are abusing the site 2 get there cheap thrills.

Bashing, harrassing, name calling, etc. are all forms of abuse & we can't control abusive people. All we can control is ourselves & how we react to abusive people. It's sad that it happens on this site but it won't go away unless the abusers go away & that's not going to happen because abusers are everywhere.

If you want to warn anyone about someone, you can tell Doug in a message. That way he can look into it. If the guy is bad, he will kick him off as quick as you can say boo. I think it is sad that everyone has to respond to warning type posts while other posts with people crying for help get buried and ignored.

Bashing?=no!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Helping?=yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes

the vote is in

I dont think its a sensible thing to do to invest so much of yourself into this or any other internet forum. They can be transient things or at least the people on them are. I run my own forum and it's a great way to meet new people but forums are fragile things. A fall out between a couple of members can act like ripples on a pond and rock the boat for everyone. In some cases it ends in outright conflict and people leaving. You may have had nothing to do with the initial fall out but all of a sudden you have lost someone you thought was a good friend. The people who come to your house and sit with you are your real friends, the ones who organise surprise parties on your birthdays, get thrown out of the pub with you when a brawl starts. We are just ideas in your heads. Some good some not so good.

I have been on DS since June. I rarely post on the depression site because it has become so negative and abusive. The best things to do are to report abusive posts to Doug and also to ignore abusers.

This has been brought up several times by many, many different people and nothing ever changes. So many people who need help are scared away. It's a shame. I choose to spend my time on other sites that are supportive and positive. This is the worst site for abuse and pettiness that I've seen on DS.

Funny because I have seen people come from other forums saying this one is so much more helpfull than the one they left

Shadrack...you make total sence