be totally selfish. do what you want for a change and stop trying to baby everyone else. they'll manage for a few minutes without you. besides, where would they be if you weren't there to take care of them? and if no one takes care of you, then how will you be there for others when you are needed? just a thought. only my opinion.

Thanks keefers - I can be pretty hard on myself at times, and I like your advice. I think I will go to bed early to get some rest :)

Honey, Like keefers said, if you don't take care of yourself, nobody else will. I used to not even like to be alone with myself. Slowly I regained my selfconfidence and self esteem and now I grab EVERY chance to myself that I can get. I even took myself to lunch today. Yep, sat right there and had lunch all by myself and loved every minute of it...good luck with your journey.

Hello, May1,
I'm in a similar situation, I just started seeing a counselor yesterday, I cried all through the session! I took care of my parents for 10 years, my mom passed away last year, Dad 4 years ago. Now, I feel totally lost, don't know what to do with myself!
I finally got up the courage to go see these counselors, and they have given me a new hope. I told them that I feel so stupid, because I don't have any training past high school, and i just don't know what to do with myself.
They have career testing there, and will help me, because of my disabilities, to find a job that is right for me. I'm not caring much about making an lot of money, i just want to get back out into the world with people! My low self esteem has been holding me back.
So, I can only suggest to you, to find a counselor, they will help you!!!!
Take care,
Linda