it isn't always something that can be explained. ppl would say from the look of it, i haven't got any reason to be as down as i am somedays. i can understand that it is hurting your family and that it is hard for you and i am sorry for that, but i can tell you, no one i know enjoys depression. it is very hard to climb out of and kick off for good. with her, it sounds like a chemical imbalence which wouldn't be something she can tackle alone no matter what she wanted. all i can say is talk to her or ask her if you can talk to her dr to understand it better or get yourself into some form of councilling to help understand and deal with it better. the stress of it all could be a bit much sometimes and an objective party can help sometimes.

Depression is a monster. It does not favor the poor over the rich, or vice versa. Depression treats all involved the same way. To those who have not experienced it first hand, it is a stranger, to those who have experienced it first hand, it is a constant companion. Depression is a destroyer of all that it touches. It is not something that can be wished, or willed away. It is a monster. I hope these thoughts help. It is not her fault. Kind regards to you and your family.

Ummm... here is how my doc explained it to me...

first, take a minute to about Diabetes... diabetes is a medical problem dealing with body chemisty (insulin in pancreas or someplace) that must be treated with medication and lifestyle changes.

Clinical depression is just another medical problem dealing with body chemistry (seritonin in the brain) that must be treated with medication and lifestyle changes.

Both ailments need medical attention and treatment... diabetics see dieticians, etc to help learn how to live with it... people with depression often see therapists to help them learn how to live with it.

She is not doing it on purpose... it is a serious medical problem.

I know it is confusing to someone who does not realize that depression is a lot more than just having a bad day... everyone gets the blues. Depression devistates lives.

Keep the faith. Your mom may have inherited depression from her mom. Does she have a lot of stress from dad or ?
Perhaps a new medication or some counseling. She may feel guilty or sad over her mothers death for whatever reason. Hang in there, she will get better with proper treatment and support. I work out at the gym and swim and it helps alot. Have her take a class, excellent way to keep her mind busy and not feel down. Yoga and pilates class too. It works great for me. Let me know if this helps. Debbie

stay strong and be supportive! its not your fault its hers. dont blame yourself thearpymight help

it is the depression's fault... not anyone elses. by going to the dr she is trying, just keep trying too and if it gets to be too much... we are here to listen.

There is another group here at Daily Strength that you might want to check out called "depression supporters" for family and friends to help them cope when someone they care about has depression.