I have currently been in a relationship for about 8 months now. Prior to that I was dating someone on and off for 7 years in an extremely abusive relationship. I am finding myself the longer I am with the new person to be extremely jealous over many situations, where I think could be brushed off/avoided. He has many friends that are girls, but most of them have boyfriends/husbands it is just all new to me. My last relationship I wasn't even allowed to have male friends, so I try to get myself out of that "norm" that used to be for me. It took literally 8 months for his group of girls to get adjusted to me and friendly...so that was a struggle for me in the beginning. His Ex girlfriend is best friends with all of the girls so I think that may be why it took a while for them to warm up, but whatever. My main problem is my jealousy issues. I constantly find myself mad, worried, over thinking everything!! We never fight, ever except if I get jealous. He is so great and I am so thankful, but sometimes I am concerned because I cant control my jealousy. Jealous is just not me but for some reason, I am so blocked off and scared to get hurt again I find myself crazy about everything.....if anyone has any advice or input that would be awesome, I am open to hear anything, I just want a healthy relationship that I know I deserve. I was real depressed during the 7 years, but I have gradually finding myself feel emotionally stable and more happy but at times....with jealousy and my new relationship I find myself feeling how I used to feel ... I become scared and I get real insecure and down. I am afraid he does not understand this, my new boyfriend thinks i am just real jealous and immature and crazy, but really I am not, its just how I feel and I cannot help it.
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