Means she's not very good at dealing with people with depression. In her own way she's trying to help, to make things look brighter to you, but she doesn't really understand that when you're depressed things don't work that way. I'm sure she doesn't hate you or think you're patheticjust sounds like she hasn't dealt with depression much and is at a loss for anything other than trite comments in the hope they'll help

its made me feel so shit as she is someone that said she is extremely worried and concerned about me.

where was the Dr comming from?

To be honest thats the kind of ridiculous comment you have to get used to. Even doctors don't always understand.

Just remember there are people here how do understand and you are not pathetic just ill.

Yes, I agree with Maridon,

It is very difficult for people who has never suffered from depression to understand and to find a way to help.

That doesn't mean WE are pathetic or THEY hate us.

Some very good friends would even pretend to ignore our predicament simply because they don't know what to say or do to help.

Don't take it badly.

taken it really badly - and makes me feel like i have to end my life for anyone to realise how bad i feel and care

cant take those comments - feels like im just in everyones way.

people really do not understand unless they have been in it. Even then, each person has their unique pain inside. My biggest disappointment is with the professionals who claim that they can help and understand, yet all they can say is just not dwell in it. Just change your mood and emerge into calmness. How does one stop the haunting thoughts that bring unbearable pain?

I love her to bits and hurts that she thinks this way of me

do i need to end my life just so people can then realise im not just wasting peoples time?

Maybe you should consider changing doctors because that is not something to be said from someone that claims to care. I would have given that doctor an ass-chewing and walked out. Based on the replies you are getting to this post, you are not alone and there are so many of us that can relate. Don't give up!!!

it means she is a callous person who needs to get some sensitivity training,,,lets toilet paper her house

No, you don't need to end your life for people to realize. People here know what you're going through, we've been there, don't give up hope.

I'm sorry, I don't see the 'pathetic' that she sent to you. I think that the depression has clouded your judgment of word. I think that your friend was trying to tell you that she understood what the dr was meaning in that cancer is more of a physical disease and depression can't be as 'life-threatening' [obvously she has never suffered depression] as cancer AND she was agreeing with you in that the dr did not show sympathy/empathy to your illness [how could he, if he has never suffered depression, first hand?].She was saying to you that the dr was not understanding enough. Your friend WAS trying to console you.
I think anyway.

i can't believe a dr and friend said those things! depression is just as much an illness as cancer. people with depression also suffer and we too have physical symptoms. that's terrible. i'd find a new doctor and tell your friend to keep it to herself or get lost if she's not gonna be supportive. don't give up you are not a waste of people's time

These are people who don't care about your pain