long distance relationships are definitely very hard, but if you really like this guy (as it seems that you do), then I say give it a shot. Who knows what the future holds, but perhaps this is the guy for you? I don't think there is a right or wrong thing, just do what makes you happy and fits with your morals and lifestyle.

thank you so much lemonea!

I'd say listen to both your heart and your head.

You have to do what is right for you. if you feel that waiting for him is the right thing to do..than so be it. I just find it odd that he wants to be a bf when you are together and when you get home or he does...the phone call comes to where he no longer wants that. Im sorry but I always look for a hidden agenda when it comes to relationships. I also worry that while you are waiting he will be taking advantage of not having a gf and be dating others. I would hate to see you wait and for nothing. Sorry if I gave you more to worry about hon. hugs to you.

based on your post sounds to me like he is playing you. the navy is no excuse for having (or not having) a relationship imo. Id say keep him in your mind but dont close your heart in the meantime.

my 2 pennies

sleepy..you said it perfectly..but once again..I took the high road. I never feel like I quite explain things without writing a book.lol.

Relationships are always hard wether they are long distance or not.. I could relate to you in many ways bc I always try to take things seriously but always end up being with the wrong person. I have always let people tell me what they thought was right for me rather than going with what I felt was right. You should def go with your heart, but also stand your ground, stand up for yourself and don't let anyone walk all over you. If you feel what this guy says is crap then let him know. you should always be honest with your feelings and with everyone around you even if you know they will not like what you may have to say.. if you feel like waiting around is what you want to do, you can do that, but don't stop living your life.. Life can be such a beautiful thing and getting out there and experiencing is so important to do.. be 21 have fun and keep in mind go with your heart but stand your ground.

the question is, do you feel waiting is the right thing to do? It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks but you and him. Good luck to you.

I may be suspicious . . . but many military men are only too eager to have you as officially their gf, fiancee, or wife . . .it can be hard for them to find women who can endure their long absences . . .if that's the case.

So I think that in this case you may be open to having an official relationship with him when this year is over . . . but I would be extremely open to others too . . .you don't have to actually look . . . but definitely be open . . . my opinion is that if he doesn't want the official title its b/c he may want to date . . .as others have said . . .

im a geek sooo:
in computer science, theres a thing called black box testing. its basically (or can be) a test of software where you give an input, let the program do its thing in the black box (no one cares of the whos, whats and hows of the black box) and the box gives an output. you compare the output to whats expected based on the input to validate the program.

in your case imo , the input is kinda irrelavent... either you want a relationship or not. your conversations with this guy are what happens inside the black box. no one really cares what is said, who said it or how its said. the main focus is the output. from what i gather, his output is the he does not want to be commited to a relationship. for whatever reason and no matter the sugar coating, the result was he does not want to be commited.

at the end of your post you said " this is not how i pictured my love life but i dont want anything with anyone else! am i doing the right thing by waiting? "

based on the fact that he is non-commital i'd say that no you are not doing the right thing by waiting (wanting to commit) for someone that is not ready to commit. sounds like you want something with someone for certain, but trying to commit to a non-commital person is a let-down in the making imo.

my final 3 cents so now ive given a nickel :)

this i just my opinion btw and howd id view it from your shoes. please no flames