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Just got off the phone a bit ago with my stbx. the other day i told him it would be in ben's best interest right now to spend most of his time with his daddy, so i can have time to work on myself. i have been having a hard time taking care of my son. well he thought i meant he could have permanent custody and i meant temporary. so now he's getting a lawyer and will probably win. i have been in a mental hospital, taking several different meds for depression and ptsd, going to therapy twice a week and i don't have a job. funny how a day can go from great to shit in just a couple of minutes.
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Awww hun, things are just going dowhill for you. Dont worry im sure your a great Mum and things will turn around,
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What you are doing right now, getting the help that you need, is the greatest gift that you can give to your son. There really isn't any such thing as permanent custody. Once you have gotten yourself together and can prove to the court that you are capable of taking care of yourself and your son, then the custody agreement can be reworked.

Do not allow yourself to worry about this to the point that you fail to focus on yourself. Sometimes as mothers we forget that we need to put ourselves first in order to be a good parent. I have a tremendous amount of respect for what you are doing right now, I really do.
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I am sure they will understand & take this into consideration. *hugs*
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oooh darlin. thats horrible.

Don't panic though, it sounds like you've had agood relationship with your ex to date, think about what you need to say and talk to him.

It's so much simpler if you don't have to involve court. You both love your son and want what is best for him, keep talking to him.
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this might cheer you up. MY oldest son is 17 I got custody back when he was 5. I have had him sense. I've gone too jail and back out again. I got him with no fight at all. I'm glad I took the time too do the right thing for him and me.
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This might sound kinda stupid, cuz I know that when you're faced with the chance of losing your child, EVERY moment that you can't be with them seems like an eternity, but maybe if the judge sees that you are working on yourself, trying to get better to be there for your son, you can leave a legal window open to get him later.
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Thanks guys!
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Well that is one be one way you son will know that he misses you and ask to come back to you. The court will listen to children muchly. Make sure you son know exactly why ask him to go and make no bones about how much you love him and partly he is the reason you want to get better. So I think.

Of course you already know to do this, I would imagine.

Hugs, lots of hugs for you,
RICHARD
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Thanks Richard, it's gonna be a while before Ben can speak for himself. He's only 22 months old
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