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not easy being alone

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Im staying in a safe house/shelter now away from my boyfriend cos he beat me up again. But its really not easy being alone. Im more depressed now im out of the situation than I was before. Its partly cos of the stories everyone keeps telling me i think, about their experiences of domestic violence and how things get worse. I was hoping for a reconciliation with my boyfriend. But the counsellor tells me thats unwise. Im learning about the cycle of violence and I can see how it relates to my situation with my boyfriend, theres the classic symtoms of it i can see. But im scared that I wont make it on my own. I already feel like taking my life cos as he said im nothing without him. Im scared no one will like me or want anything to do with me. He was always the center of my friends, he was my whole world. Nows theres just me and im scared that by myself im not strong enough or good enough to face the world alone.
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Saying you are nothing without him just shows how insecure he really is. HE is NOTHING without someone physically weaker than him to take out his frustrations on. He is a small, insignificant person and although you feel worse now, that is simply because you'd allowed yourself to fall into the trap of that environment being a secure one. Now that you are away from him you will soon start to realise that you are so much bigger and better than he is and allow yourself to make a new, better life of your own. Stay strong and know that you've made the biggest step already, the rest are going to be so much easier. xxx
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But this is what these men do! they break your spirit, stop you seeing anyone else, make themselves the centre of everything and make you so weak you cant be without them. But you CAN. This is the tough bit, and you have done so well to get out of that situation. Your counceller is right to stay away. You will get stronger and stronger, until one day you will wonder what you ever saw in him in the first place x
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I know it is not easy being alone, but i am SOOOO glad you got yourself out of that terrible situation. You are strong enough, and good enough to handle your new situation, and I totally believe you will find that other people will like you, support you, and love you. Don't believe a word your "boyfriend" says to you about yourself. He is not only a physical abuser, he is a mental abuser as well. You are EVERYTHING without him. Stay away from him, don't become an ongoing victim. I'm not saying stay away from him forever, if you love him, but stay away from him if he abuses you in any way, shape, or form. Abuse is not love. Here is a graphic way to put it; would you deliberately hold your hand over an open flame on the stove top? Staying in an abusive relationship is pretty much the same thing, without the flame being the cause of pain. best wishes, stay strong, and listen especially to your counselor.
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Hi Poppy! These feelings will come but just know you are a strong person and can overcome them. You've come a long ways already. You can make it your not alone. we are here for you and I'm sure you have family that is so proud of you too.
There are pple who will like you and want to be around you. Start fresh with new friends. He is not controlling you now, When you look back at the progress your making you will be so proud of yourself too. It will get better, just hang on tight to your self worth and who you are.
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I was in love with an abuser, loved him since I was fifteen and ended up marrying him....he was abused also

I understand grieving the part that you hoped it could be, don't beat yourself up for that

don't go back tho, let it go, let him go, I had to....message me if you like

I admire your courage to get out and be where you are, you will get over him, and will love yourself enough to see that he is a hurting man whom you can't save...

all my prayers and God bless you
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I thought you were a troll at first.I couldn't believe your despondency.The guy you were with needs you more than you need him.Message me anytime.You can do this.My mum did.I'll knock him out for you if you want me to.I mean that.Got battered all my life,pain makes me laugh
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