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My husband was diagnosed with bradycardia. He had a sleep study which found the problem with his heart. It seems his heart was stopping for 4 seconds all night long. We also found out his pulse was around 36 all the time, which is not good. He keeps saying he wasn't tired but he slept all day. His cardiologist felt a pacemaker was his best option. He did not think so. Even when he was going into surgery he was still asking the Dr. "can't I take care of this some other way?" Of course the Dr said no and reminded him without the pacemaker he could just go to sleep and not wake up because of the stopping of the heart and the beat being so slow doesn't help.
After he came out of surgery he was very angry at me and blamed me for all his problems. If I had not taken him in for the sleep study this would not have happened. I pushed him into the surgery. I told him he could walk away at any time but it was not advisable. It will be a week tomorrow and he goes to see his Dr to have the staples taken out. I sure hope this attitude changes. I don't know how long I can take it. Having Heart surgery of anykind is very hard on the spouce. So far his attitude has not changed much. It is still my fault.
Sorry I had to dump somewhere I hope you understand.
After he came out of surgery he was very angry at me and blamed me for all his problems. If I had not taken him in for the sleep study this would not have happened. I pushed him into the surgery. I told him he could walk away at any time but it was not advisable. It will be a week tomorrow and he goes to see his Dr to have the staples taken out. I sure hope this attitude changes. I don't know how long I can take it. Having Heart surgery of anykind is very hard on the spouce. So far his attitude has not changed much. It is still my fault.
Sorry I had to dump somewhere I hope you understand.
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It is not your fault.
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It's not your fault...
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