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austin has always been my closest friend. and the longest. my dads in the army so we move alot but we always come back home every summer, n holiday and the past year n a half i lived her permanetly. austin was my neighbor. our families have always grown together. my dad and his dad, our grandparents. its always been so close with our families.
the night sept. 8 i got off work a lil later than expected and austin called bc i was supposed to meet up with him at the fair. i was to tired and broke my promise to. he got mad at me. my last words to him was... whatever... and i hung up. the next morning was one i will never get over. my grandma and grandpa looked at me. my grandpa said...There was a fire, austin and bryant (his dad) and stacy didnt make it. god i lost it. i left town to my dads for a few days. if i woulda went that night like i said he woulda came back to his grandparents next door instead of his dads house. he woulda lived.
i cant get over this. i cant get over the last words and the thoughts. i feel like im losing my mind. i always talked stuff out with him. now i cant function. the only other person i consider my best friend , jess, is the only other one i talk to about life. my boyfriend he just idk but i keep having this dream now where jess dies and i lose her to. i woke up soaked in sweat the other night and called her at like 4 in the morning to hear her say she was ok..
im losing it bad. no one my age usually goes through this. its senior year and i lost austin and bryant. he was so so close and dear to me and really the only close death i have had to deal with. idk wat to do. ihave tried to stay busy with school, college night classes, and 2 jobs but at night im alone and its the worst time.
i need advice. its been 2 months and 19 days and i cant get over this..none of it. i just love and miss him so so much.... idk how to deal.... if u have any advice please tel me bc i dont want to forget him but i cant keep crying and hurting so much everynight
the night sept. 8 i got off work a lil later than expected and austin called bc i was supposed to meet up with him at the fair. i was to tired and broke my promise to. he got mad at me. my last words to him was... whatever... and i hung up. the next morning was one i will never get over. my grandma and grandpa looked at me. my grandpa said...There was a fire, austin and bryant (his dad) and stacy didnt make it. god i lost it. i left town to my dads for a few days. if i woulda went that night like i said he woulda came back to his grandparents next door instead of his dads house. he woulda lived.
i cant get over this. i cant get over the last words and the thoughts. i feel like im losing my mind. i always talked stuff out with him. now i cant function. the only other person i consider my best friend , jess, is the only other one i talk to about life. my boyfriend he just idk but i keep having this dream now where jess dies and i lose her to. i woke up soaked in sweat the other night and called her at like 4 in the morning to hear her say she was ok..
im losing it bad. no one my age usually goes through this. its senior year and i lost austin and bryant. he was so so close and dear to me and really the only close death i have had to deal with. idk wat to do. ihave tried to stay busy with school, college night classes, and 2 jobs but at night im alone and its the worst time.
i need advice. its been 2 months and 19 days and i cant get over this..none of it. i just love and miss him so so much.... idk how to deal.... if u have any advice please tel me bc i dont want to forget him but i cant keep crying and hurting so much everynight
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I am not bothered by the fact that our last conversation was bad. It can't take away 35 years of closeness. (He was 35)
So, your friend lives in your heart. Nothing can take away your friendship and your love for each other. Not even a little fight. All friends have disagreements, it's part of life. You two would have made up.
You can't have regrets like it's your fault that he was in the fire. We all have to cancel plans sometimes - we have to take care of ourselves when we're too tired. You didn't do anything wrong.
Stay close to God, and get through your grief. We may not ever be able to overcome our grief, but we can learn to cope.
Stay close to God, and think about how you two can meet up in Heaven some day. But not before your own time. You are meant to do and say things on this earth, and so YES live your life as you've been trying. But without so much regret. Don't let it eat you up - you don't have anything to be guilty for.
I really feel for you, and I hope you continue to seek support. {{{hug}}}}
By seeing the photo, it might help you to accept that he's gone, that it's real.
If I'd never seen my brother's body, I would have had a very hard time believing that he was really gone.
I had a very hard time with seeing him dead...the image does haunt me sometimes, and the smells of the chemicals used haunt me in cleaning products, hair spray, etc. But I am hoping it will fade.
After you get over the shock of him gone, get peace about your last conversation, your good memories of him will overshadow all of that. It was very hard to picture my brother other than dead for a long time because seeing him that way was such a shock. But now my memories are coming back again, and those are what we want to hang onto. Don't worry, you won't forget the photo but it will fade, and become overshadowed by the REAL Austin. {{{Hug}}}}
But I don't forget those that are still here with me. So don't forget Jess, or let this hurt your friendship. If you don't want to talk about something, be gentle and honest: "I can't talk about that right now."
Think of it as living apart from him until you see him again. Heaven is forever, so one day you'll never have to be apart.
Look at it as living well for him - because he would want you to live well and do well, even if he's not here.
You will never have a friend exactly like him. It would be like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. But, you will have many, many friends in your lifetime that will also be worthwhile like he was.
He will get to see your milestones and happiness - your wedding.
I can't tell you "how to deal" or how to move on. All I know is that you will have to grieve, you will think about him constantly for a long time. But just keep going, stay positive, and eventually, you will have new people and new things in your life. They don't replace him. But, they too, are meant to be for you. Enjoy the goodness in your life. It's okay to miss him. But don't stop living your life to the fullest. {{big hug}}
Maybe it is burdensome for her to see you so sad, and she probably feels helpless - and probably wishes she could do something to help, but she really doesn't know how or can't.
Just don't forget - friendship goes both ways. Don't let your grief about Austin make you forget about her. Ask how she's doing, ask her what's new, ask her about her interests, things you know are going on or always go on with her. If you make it go both ways, it will help balance things between you two. If you feel burdensome toward her, then do refrain from talking too much about it... and lean on someone else - like you are doing right now, right here. Also your parents, grandparents.
Also reassure her - that it's just hard right now, but that you look forward to feeling better, and thank her for hanging in there with you during this horribly difficult time.