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I,m a 37 year old male facing a number of issues. I live with my mother who is very dependent on me financially and emotionally. Although my girlfriend says she loves my mother, my girl says that she is too involved in our lives, and I agree. Eventually my girl would like to move out with me but that would mean that I would have to leave my mother. I have other relatives but my mother can't even think of living with any of them. On top of all that, I really hate my job and of course I'm going through major depression. What could I do? Is it wrong for me to even think of leaving my mother?
deleted_user
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I dont think its wrong no. This is what happens when you get older. People move out of home and begin their own lives. Thats the way things go. Perhaps you could move close to your mother if she is very reliant on you. Moving away from her doesnt mean that you are cutting her out of your life at all. As for the job, any chance of changing it? Maybe you could start looking at something different?
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It's not wrong, but only you can decided if it is what is right for YOU to do. I'm sure everyone in your situation feels this way, but you have to decide what you need to do in your own heart. I know that's not much of an answer, but it's the best I can do.
ZAZAS
ZAZAS
Well, it more that just leaving her alone, you said she was dependant of your help, what will happen to her if you do?

I guess it would be more of, why is she with you? why is she dependant of you? where will she go?

It seems your unhappy with quit a bit in your life, your job too. Maybe working on yourself and explaining to mom you and your girl need more space? You said your girl said she was to involved, how about you? What do you think. You should not have to choose between them, and maybe you need to look at all angles. Just who is the selfish one? I assure you, putting mom on the street is not going to solve your problems.
deleted_user
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I definitely would not and couldn't put her in the street. I feel like I'm under a lot of pressure. Although she says that she is supportive of what I do. We can't go on the way things are. Thanks, for your responses. I feel really, really anxiety ridden.
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I don't know if this is helpful , but when I'm wrecked with anxiety, I literally get myself in the mirror (alone preferably) and tell myself sometimes repeatedly that there is a solution to my problems.

I also try to visualize some point after the anxiety-inducing problem has passed, it doesn't matter if I think the problem can pass or not, I just make myself visualize being through it.
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