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Well here it is - I have been close friends with a woman and her children for the past 10 years (the last 6 very close to her and her now 12 yr old and 14 yr old girls). She had breast cancer about 12 years ago when I met her initially, and during her treatment her husband left her and they eventually got divorced and have joint custody (she is also cancer free). I only consider her a very close friend, and she also feels that way to me (or so I thought). At her request I would act as a \"father figure\" while the girls were at her house and I thought I was doing a pretty good job and I have grown to love them very much. I also would make sure that they were safely cruising the internet and not getting into trouble while online. I would sometimes really get on them about it because they were doing things they shouldn\'t have been doing. Recently I was told that I was wrong for this and that the whole relationship was \"unhealthy\" for the kids. I\'ve not been able to see them much and I\'m pretty devastated by it and need advice badly. I only see them about once a week if I\'m lucky and it\'s not the same anymore. And this came out of the blue and really shocked me. Can anyone offer some insight to this? Rich
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If so, or even if it didn\'t, I\'d ask the mom if there was some sort of problem that you may not be aware of.
There is nothing wrong with trying to help a single mom with her kids, especially at her request. But there is a fine line. Everyone can become too attached and there is also the \"surrogate\" issue to deal with.
Unfortunately, people can misread good intentions.
I am now a single mom with 2 boys left at home. I\'d love for someone to be there for them when their dad couldn\'t or wouldn\'t. My problem is, the seperation is so new that I would probably become too attached and find myself in a rebound situation and that wouldn\'t
be good, for anyone. I don\'t remember if you said how long she has been single.
Do you and she still have your friendship, aside from the issue with the kids?
Maybe this will pass and things will be worked out. I don\'t know.
I just think it is great that you have such care and concern for these children. That is what a true friend does. Care about the family as well as the adult.
I wish you the best of luck.