I am really good friends with my sister in law. But she has been having problems with depression for the past year. It is steadily getting worse. She is now not paying the important bills and is always calling my mother in law for money. Well she called me earlier in the week and asked if I would tell her rental company that she would pay her apartment rent on Thursday morning. I left them a message. I found out yesterday that she still hasnt paid it but instead paid her cell phone bill. Really ticked me off because I laid myself out there for her and she didnt do what she said she would even after I told her I didnt feel comfortable doing it. My husband came home last night and said that he is going to give her three hundred dollars for her rent and his mom is going to give it back to him on Wednesday. I am now in an up roar because she makes more then my husband does and has less expensises because her rent is only half of what ours is and she only has one child. She is also drinking alot and when I suggested meds she said she would rather drink.

So I told her this morning via text message that we need to sit down and talk. I need to tell her that me and her need to sit down and write out a budget for her and that certain bills take priority over others. She told me that she cant do it tonight because she is having movie night at her house. But I also need to talk to her about her drinking because I am concerned for my niece. Her mother isnt spending any time with her. Is always drinking. Blowing her money on Lord only knows what. And she is now starting to leave her at the baby sitters until nine ten oclock at night. As a mom this really concerns me and I know after I talk to her its going to ruin our relationship. But she cant keep asking people for money. She is taking three hundred dollars from us that we dont have to give. I only had thirty dollars to spend on my daughter for her birthday because thats all the extra our budget allowed. Plus christmas is right around the corner and we have no idea how we are going to provide gifts for our children. Please help im reaching my wits end but I dont want to lose the one friendship that I have outside of DS.