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deleted_user 02/12/2009

I saw my husband off today at the airport to go back to Iraq. He's been on emergency leave for the past 3 weeks because his grandfather took a turn for the worst. Three days after he came home his grandfather passed away (01.21.09).

He left for Iraq in November 9 2008. That was the anniversary of my mothers death (11.09.06). This entire time of leave has had such undertones of grief and anger. It was still good to be with him. I miss him already and I'm finding myself not able to sleep.

There isn't much of a chance that he'll get another leave. He's due to come home the earliest September or October - The latest November. So, I will not see him again for at least another 7 months. Our home is so empty. My eyes are sore from crying. I'm feeling very much alone.

My heart goes out to everyone dealing with loss and grief. Say a prayer for all our soldiers and their families.

There's someone out there with a loved one over seas who is a son, dauther, father, or mother. There's someone out there who is dealing with recently getting married, recently having a child, and dealing with a loss.

I just want to reach out and hug everyone. Sometimes there just aren't the right words to describe how much we all hurt inside.

deleted_user 02/12/2009

correction: my mother passed away 11.09.96

deleted_user 02/12/2009

I come from a long line of folks who have served. My family is well aware othe sacrifices our soldiers make to protect us. You are not alone and your husbands sacrifice and yours are appreciated. I know it is very hard to see our loved ones off. I will pray for your husband, you and all of our military families.

deleted_user 02/12/2009

Thank you for your response. Thank you and your family as well for their service. One thing is definatly a comfort is that we're not alone in this. We have so, so many people serving both at home and overseas. It's good to give each other support in these times. There are just so many other things going on in everyone elses lives that make these long periods of separation just so damn hard.

deleted_user 02/12/2009

((((HUGS)))).

deleted_user 02/12/2009

I wish you and your family much love and respect. The politics of war must often make you feel unappreciated and it is important for you to know that despite anyone's politcal views we value your husband's (and your)contribution x

deleted_user 02/12/2009

Your hubby is someone to be proud of honey. I cant thank those enough for the work they do to keep us safe. I cant imagine the missing you must feel knowing that you wont see him walk through the door each day. Just support and let him know you love him hon. I find it ironic how to one person a date can be filled with such pain and anguish. Such as your mom passing on the ninth of november. My daughter was born that day. I have had numerous deaths in my family and I know loss well. Honey...time and understanding will get you through it. Take care and hugs to you.

deleted_user 02/12/2009

I can't imagine what you must be going thru. I will keep your family in my prayers. God bless you.

deleted_user 02/12/2009

HUGS and I will pray for you & your brave husband. Lean on us during this very difficult time for you.

My brother (Marines) has served two tours in Iraq thus far.

deleted_user 02/12/2009

Hugs to you hun, praying xo

deleted_user 02/12/2009

my thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband and all of the military and their families.lean on us to help to give you strength because you are serving also. love and hugs to you

deleted_user 02/12/2009

I bet you are missing your husband, my thoughts and prayers go out to you,your husband and to all the soldiers and their loved ones who are serving their country as you said both home and abroad xxxx Thinking of you

deleted_user 02/12/2009

You are both very brave, you for allowing him to go and him for going, I truly hope the time flies and he is home safe with you soon, take care of yourself.
My friend used to tape messages for her partner and send them to him and he would send her his thoughts, just to hear one anothers voice. He is out of the English army now but they still keep the messages they shared.
Keep in touch with him as much as you can and let him know you are proud of him and love him so very much.

Bistro 02/12/2009

I think this is the cost of Freedom. I'm sorry you have to pay for my freedom. God Bless you and your husband, and all our brave soldiers and families. I wish I had a magic wand for you. Sept/Oct seems a long way off right now, but keep busy with the things you want to do between now and then and it will fly by.

deleted_user 02/12/2009

my thoughts are with you and your hubby. my son is due to go early 2010, to me he is still a boy (18) but its what he chose. However, i know like everyone whith a loved one there i will worry till he comes home. xx

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