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Excuse this off topic post but I really want to tell people about my Father.
He died 9 months ago. I miss him dearly. He was strong and brave and intelligent. We would always turn to him for advice and guidance and we would always make our desicions in life safe in the Knowledge he was behind us.
He was respected by his work collegues so much so that his place of employment that he left 10 years before his death, upon hearing of what happened created and dedicated a training department in his name.
He was unemotional and sometimes seemed cold but we knew he loved us and what he was trying to do was teach us about independance and help us stand on our own feet.
He was selfish and stuborn probably due to being an only child but he was so humorous with it you werent offended when he clutched his bag of sweets, saying "MINE!"
When he became diabetic he'd hide his sweets in the conservatory from his wife and sneak them when she wasnt looking. He knew what he liked and he indulged and im glad he did.
I have so many things I want to say to him and show to him but I cant. I dont believe he is watching me because If i believed that Id be filled with shame at what he would of seen. But I hope that he's out there and that one day Ill find him.
Our fathers when theyre good mean so much to us. They are our support and foundation to who we become. Especially for women. We judge our future partners on them. I had my dad on a pedastal. A place he rightly deserved to be. And he'll stay there.
He died 9 months ago. I miss him dearly. He was strong and brave and intelligent. We would always turn to him for advice and guidance and we would always make our desicions in life safe in the Knowledge he was behind us.
He was respected by his work collegues so much so that his place of employment that he left 10 years before his death, upon hearing of what happened created and dedicated a training department in his name.
He was unemotional and sometimes seemed cold but we knew he loved us and what he was trying to do was teach us about independance and help us stand on our own feet.
He was selfish and stuborn probably due to being an only child but he was so humorous with it you werent offended when he clutched his bag of sweets, saying "MINE!"
When he became diabetic he'd hide his sweets in the conservatory from his wife and sneak them when she wasnt looking. He knew what he liked and he indulged and im glad he did.
I have so many things I want to say to him and show to him but I cant. I dont believe he is watching me because If i believed that Id be filled with shame at what he would of seen. But I hope that he's out there and that one day Ill find him.
Our fathers when theyre good mean so much to us. They are our support and foundation to who we become. Especially for women. We judge our future partners on them. I had my dad on a pedastal. A place he rightly deserved to be. And he'll stay there.
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Hi everyone, I just want to vent. One Saturday two to three weeks ago, I helped Mom pruned her bougainvillea, handwashed her clothes, chopping/frying dinner, scrubbed the tiles in three bathrooms, mopped the tiles, vacumn the floor, typed 5000 words for my teacher..... Twenty four hours later, I could not lift my entire right arm as it was red and swollen. My right hand became so swollen that I...
my thoughts are with you, my friend! i'm sorry for your loss; NOONE can take the place of a father; mine has been not so great, but i still love him, no matter what! i am here if u need to talk, my friend!
I'm sure he would be touched to know how you remember him.
and good post
My dad (aka Fat Daddy) is my best mate, can't imagine life without him.
Gonna PM you a poem; you've prob seen it already, but I reckon its true and apt. xx
Loss is never pleasant, maybe try focusing on your good memories and the wonderful times you had. Some people whose fathers are still with us, have never experienced such a positive relationship, so in that respect you were/are very lucky. One day at a time sweetie xx
I'd say anything that brings a smile or a little joy into the lives of others is very appropriate for a depression site.
We all have two chances at a loving family, first when we are born and second when we marry and create our own.
We can do nothing about the kind of people we are born to but we have total responsibility for who we chose to be our mate and parent our children.
Fathers like Sleepychilds are examples for all of us.