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Ok this is it, please give me your thoughts.
After this weekend I felt the need to send this email.
After spending all night in hospital having blood tests, urine tests and EKG's plus a consultancy with the on call psychiatrist, you didn't even bother to ask me how I am.
Then when I said that where you wanted to meet was too far away, you couldn't even comnpromise to meet somewhere closer.
You couldn't be bothered to come to my flat, you couldn't bother to even see me after a year and a half. If you didnt want to see I would have preferred it that you just said that.
I constantly feel like I am walking on eggshells whenever we talk because you do not understand me at all.
I have done so much to try to help you through difficult phases and yes, I will admit that you have helped me a few times. But you dont appreciate me or what I have tried to do for you.
You take offense to simple jokes, you have no respect for me or my opinion.
But what is the most offensive is that you come all the way down here and you dont even want to see me. I have to ask to see you and frankly, I'm not that bothered when you obviously dont give a fuck about me or all the shit that I am going through at the moment.
I always ask about your mum, your girlfriend, your driving lessons but you dont even bother to care about the fact that I am going through some nasty shit.
So this is it.
I think it is best that we cut ties forever. I am sad about it because we could've been really good friends but you have made that impossible.
Feel free to reply to this as I would like to know your thoughts, but if all you are going to do is slag me off then I am not interested.
Goodbye, I enjoyed our good times but unfortunately they dont out weigh the bad.
Miranda.
After this weekend I felt the need to send this email.
After spending all night in hospital having blood tests, urine tests and EKG's plus a consultancy with the on call psychiatrist, you didn't even bother to ask me how I am.
Then when I said that where you wanted to meet was too far away, you couldn't even comnpromise to meet somewhere closer.
You couldn't be bothered to come to my flat, you couldn't bother to even see me after a year and a half. If you didnt want to see I would have preferred it that you just said that.
I constantly feel like I am walking on eggshells whenever we talk because you do not understand me at all.
I have done so much to try to help you through difficult phases and yes, I will admit that you have helped me a few times. But you dont appreciate me or what I have tried to do for you.
You take offense to simple jokes, you have no respect for me or my opinion.
But what is the most offensive is that you come all the way down here and you dont even want to see me. I have to ask to see you and frankly, I'm not that bothered when you obviously dont give a fuck about me or all the shit that I am going through at the moment.
I always ask about your mum, your girlfriend, your driving lessons but you dont even bother to care about the fact that I am going through some nasty shit.
So this is it.
I think it is best that we cut ties forever. I am sad about it because we could've been really good friends but you have made that impossible.
Feel free to reply to this as I would like to know your thoughts, but if all you are going to do is slag me off then I am not interested.
Goodbye, I enjoyed our good times but unfortunately they dont out weigh the bad.
Miranda.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
1. She may actually be somewhat afraid and unable to deal with your emotions and the fact that you cut yourself - this is very hard for most people to deal with, it's hard to understand why, and when you try to help and can't, it can feel like a kick in the face.
I lost a few friends when I went through some very serious shite some years back - at the time it really hurt and I couldn't understand why they did not stick by me.
With the passing of years and the wisdom of hindsight I now completely understand why they did not stick around and further-more I don't blame them.
I'm not saying this is the reason for her behaviour towards you but it might be.
Here's the other reason...
2. If she truly does not give a flying fuck about you, your email will not affect her in any way. She will dump it and forget about you and you will be left feeling all the more bereft that she has not bothered to reply to you.
I think - and this is hard to do for the first week or so, you need to walk away. Forget about her, find new people and things to do. Keep busy.
Hope this helps
Cheers
Snork
Words are weapons - once you let them fly you can't take them back, no matter how much you might wish you could. Better to err on the side of caution and wait than to send it and find you regret it later.