There seems to be a hell of a lot of people on here who are not themselves depressed (or at least didn't start out that way) but are being made miserable by a partner or family member who is depressed. Sometimes it's because they just feel they cant do enough and suffer when they see loved ones hurting but sometimes it seem malicious. Depressed people want to lash out sometimes and the closest thing to them will take the hit. It wasn't meant for you, you were in the blast radius and you were there because you love the person suffering the most. It hurts so much when someone you love hurts you but in most cases you have to see it as a 'friendly fire' incident. The one doing the firing will be equally as devastated when they realise what they have done.