I am so sorry. This has got to be very hard on you. I think feeling lost is probably putting it mildly. It is hard to be with someone when we really get nothing in return and they get it all. It is even harder to go through the motions knowing that all will be the same and feel the same the next day. Have you thought about what you wanted to do now? Do you think that marraige counselling would help any? I am sorry.

We both work full time and are full time students and have ttwo kids. It's hard for us to get any time together and when we do it ends up being a fight. I keep telling him i need help with the house and the kids but he plays his games and makes sure he gets all his school work done. It just feels like he's being really selfish and I'm left to carry everything. I'm thinking of quitting school just to relieve the stress but that makes me worry more that I'll never finish. I'm 25 and just got to return and it's so hard. I think another lapse in enrollment would do me in.

That;s why I came here. I thought if maybe I could talk to other people I would feel better. We have all the same friends so when I try to talk to them he says it makes him look bad because I'm mad and make him out to be the bad guy.

I am sorry you are having such a hard time... I am single.. my beloved died over 5 years ago. I wish I had something useful to say. Thought you could use a *hug*

Thank you. Sometimes it helps to be able to say something and not be yelled at for being upset.

Juggling kids and school has got to be hard. I am an at home mom. But, once upon a time, I had the kids and a full time job and everything on my shoulders. I know what you mean about needing help with the kids and the house. Your plate is full and you feel overwhelmed. As soon as you said GAMES I felt for you. My brother is the greatest guy. BUT, he is addicted to xbox and every other game system that came before it. His ex, would complain alot to him about the time he spent on it and how the house was falling down around him but his face would not leave that tv screen.

Sometimes we have to lower or adjust our expectations of what makes a good husband. I've been married a long time & have felt unsupported also. Please stay in school for yourself & your children. Also some partners can't really deal with depression so we have to find other outlets such as this site. I know it's frustrating but we can't control other people to do what we want all the time. I'm not advocating staying with this man, but things could get better for you if you make some adjustments.

I am sorry you have been going through this. I hate that feeling of going through the motions, even worse when you feel it is useless to even do that.

Emotional balance is like keeping a checkbook, you have to have more credits that debits, else the account is going to be non sufficient. The short version, you have to have some fun to equal or outshine the hard, bad and difficult things in life.

Sounds like your doing all the giving and getting nothing back in return. Take some time for you. The only person you can change is yourself. You cant change your husband, but you can change the way you allow his behavior to affect you.

I've been trying for so long I feel like giving up but I know I really don't want to. I don't know what else to do. I've talked and I've yelled and screamed. I've made lists and I've asked nicely. I'm such at a loss for what else to do to get help. On top of that, when he asked what I was doing on here I told him I needed a venting point and he was concerned if I used my real name or if there was a way people could know I was talking about him. It feels like he's so selfish. I'm frustrated and close to walking away from it. I don't know how much more I can handle before I fly off and do something mean or something i'll regret. I'm hoping things will be bbetter if I use this as an outlett regaurdles of what he thinks. Counseling is the next step if he continues to turn a blind eye. Maybe if I have this to write on, it will get eaiser to talk to him without anger or hurt feelings.

Are you in counseling? I found out in my divorce that I needed to find out who I truly was. Is it the security keeping you together or love?
If it's love, he has to be non-toxic for you. If it's security, find yourself and then make up your mind. I hope you find your way back to yourself. You will be in my thoughts.

Ha! reminds me of my husband. Would be horrified to learn that air our dirty laundry!
TFB for him!!