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Hi All. My first day on here - been reading and checking in periodically. I need some advice. I recently moved 2 hours away from my family and friends to start my life over (broke up with ex-fiance) Since I have been here I have spiraled into a deep depression and can't get out of it. I moved to Boston, MA and I am 30 years old - I thought this would be the most exciting time of my life, but instead I am horrible miserable, can't eat and can't do anything. Should I move back home to be closer to family for support or try and stick it out here? I will feel like a failure if I move home which may make my depression worse. Im so confused and lost. Any advice?
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Cloudy, could it be that you're simply feeling lost and alone in your new home?

What are your interests? Are there any clubs/interest groups nearby that you can join to meet new people, and make friends?
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I can't seem to get off the couch. I can get my self to work and then as soon as I get home I start crying and am back on the couch until i fall asleep. I started taking st. john's wort -which helped the crying to stop...
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well boston is kind of boring. no real night life. hey go hang out at fenway tonight. grab hold of the frenzy. it will be an exciting place to be at the end of this gamwin or lose.
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You may be a little bit homesick. I would stay for a while but if it doesn't get better then move back. Did you move there for a job opportunity?
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yea, I went over to fewway to watch the game last week. Me and my friend had to stand outside for over an hour to get into a bar. It sucked. Once we were inside it was all really young college kids (no offense to college kids-I was one once)..I guess I was just too depressed to be there.
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Breaking up takes its toll. Grief and depression happen during break ups. Moving home doesn't seem the answer.
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yea, took a job with a similar company I was working at, at the time. I actually talked to my old boss last week and they are drafting me an offer letter to come back (if that is what I decide)...so confused, but I guess its nice to have that option now. Can't do anything without a job.
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I am seeing a guy now that lives back at home. He comes up every weekend to see me - only problem is he has major depression too. I was never depressed before I met him....could it be contagous? I swear he makes me happy - but he never wants to do anything and we end up staying inside in our pajamas all weekend...I know it can't be a good influence.
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I refuse to date anyone with depression. I have enough to deal with in my own life, let alone theirs.

Have you ever considered maybe taking a break and being single for a bit? I can remember a few breaks up -- they can really knock you for a loop.
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i wish a new of more fun places to go in boston, but i am a home body and very very old. boston is boring at night like i said, but it can grow on you. been around here all my life.
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You and your man may be setting yourselves up for co-dependency cloudy, so you do need to be careful.
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I was with my ex-fiance for 7 years and then the guy I am seeing now for 2. I can't imagine being alone..its too hard.....
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30 is not old, cloudy. I believe in being patient. I have also learned that learning to accept and tolerate boredom has its benefits. As a result, I have almost no drama queens in my life anymore.

The end of a relationship is painful and it is also a great time of discovery. People get lost in relationships. It could be a great time for you to tap into things that you always were interested in and curious about. It could also be a time to let yourself run wile -- a new city, a new life. You can re-invent yourself.

It can be crisis or opportunity.

You get the luxury of choosing.
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I hear ya. The fear of being alone kept me in two relationships that I later came to regret. Being with someone out of fear is never going to be a happy relationship.

I learned that one the hard way.
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What does 'co-dependancy' mean? And what impact could it have?
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