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Knowing the truth

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I am wondering if anybody knows about their abandonment issues in depth? Yesterday i asked my mother to give me exact deatils of when she was in hospital being treated for depression. She was in hospital for a month when i was 2 years old and again for another month when i was 5 years.She would have been unavailable to me before going into hospital and afterwards until things got back to 'normality'. I understand that i would have had basic unmet needs due to this seperation and why i have such extreme anxiety in my romantic relationships.

For the last month i have explained to my partner about my needs and he has shown me he is able and willing to meet them like making sure we have daily meaningful contact but i fear the next time i have to experience this debilitating anxiety if i feel he is not meeting my needs and i need to write about my abandonment pain in order to move on from it. I need to accept it and learn that i have no reason to be ashamed of myself or my feelings and that i have inherent worth for who i am as a child of God.

Blessings to you all
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i agree with what you say
dont worry i dont think he'll leave i think you have a good one if you have explained and he has stood by you thus far he must really love you
i dont know what to about getting over abandoment issues because i have never had to deal with these im sorry i wish i could help but what you have planned sounds like a good start to me at least its a way to get your true feellings out and on paper so that when it is said and done you can look and reflect on far you have came and i hope this comes easy for you being able to write out your feelings my problem is that i shutter things in and i nedd to learn to write them out as well big hugs amber im here if you need to chat
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Bless you and hugs :)
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