problems in children? My "step-son" (and his sister) came here to live with us in January. He just turned eight in February and before he came to live with us he was with his mother who has been from one guy to the next and they were drug around from place to place...school to school. They were constantly left unsupervised and were allowed to do whatever they wanted. Here they have rules and are supervised to the point where they can't leave sight of our house. These rules are are the same for my 10 year old son so I don't think I'm being unreasonable or unfair to children that aren't mine. We aren't having a problem with the nine year old daughter at all...but her brother is completely out of control. He is defiant, he constantly lies, he throws tantrums like a 3 year old, he yells everything he says, he hasn't been taught how to bathe himself properly or wipe himself properly, and everything we try to teach him, he instantly gets defensive and tunes us out. His mother gave them to us because she could no longer handle them and she is very aware of what he is like cuz he was like that at her house and still is when he visits every other weekend. If he was my son, I would have spanked him...I did spank my son when he was younger and he knows what lines he cannot cross. I used to spank my "step-children" when they were younger until my "step-son" lied a few years ago and said I threw something at him and children services was called on me. But now when he's being defiant and standing there, not doing what he is told with that glare on his face, and you put your hand on his back to get him walking in the right direction, he throws himself down all melodramatic and says u pushed him. At least now, he won't get anybody to believe his lies cuz he pretty much does it with everyone including his own mother. I know this a long post but I'm so frustrated cuz we are his only chance for a decent life and tonight, we caught him kissing his 5 year old sister and three year old cousin on the lips. His dad called his ex and together they agreed he needs counseling and dad is gonna set up an appointment asap. I just don't want anything bad to happen to my little girl like it happened to me when I was little like her and how do I protect her when the threat is under my own roof? Sorry this was so long.
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