ok well this may not be the advice you are hoping for, BUT I think you need to get out of there, No I mean RUN out of there and never look back...Yes you do have someplace to go there are shelters in almost every city in the world. If he is this way, you need to get out! NOW.

what is 1800?Am from UK.Cocaine is a habit that can be broken(cannot see the attraction in it,rich mans speed)Sounds like you've had enough anyway else you might support him.NEVER stay with someone who drags you down.Coke ruins lives and I still don't know what's good about it,just made me feel like I was IT.Get out soon as you can if you can't help him xx

Head to a shelter.

thank you for the advice and by 1800# i meant sex hotline #'s.i know i have to get out but its so hard

a shelter would be a good idea, because if the cocaine is found in your house by police it could mean serious jail time...your in a destructive situation do u have any family members u could stay with?

save up your money and get another appartment if that isnt yours...
if its yours kick him out
if he wont do it willingly call the cops

i HAVE NO FAMILY,soim in a bad place and my mom stayed in the shelters around here and its horrible

I don't understand (and I'm not trying to be snotty), but you write all those things and can seriously ask if he's holding you down?

YES.

Do what you have to do for YOU. If need be, call the police to deal with his drug issues. If the phone is in your name, call the phone company and ask about getting a block placed on 1-900 numbers.

And I'm sorry but he doesn't "just have to lie", he just DOES because he has no respect for you. Being a liar is a CHOICE, and he choses to disrespect you.

I'm with always on this.

wow you NEED to get out of there .is ther awomans shelter there?you dont need that crap I m sorry but you need to get out.

Is he abusing you? If not get out slower. I wouldnt want to go to a shelter either.

A shelter is the first thing I thought of too. Can you go to one outside your area?

There is also the YWCA if there's one in your area, and also check with your local churches. Some of them offer help for women in your situation, or know of resources where you can get it.

If you are reaching out for help, you probably needt to get out ASAP.

A shelter is the first thing I thought of too. Can you go to one outside your area?

There is also the YWCA if there's one in your area, and also check with your local churches. Some of them offer help for women in your situation, or know of resources where you can get it.

If you are reaching out for help, you probably needt to get out ASAP.

sweetie, you need to get out of that situation. Check out some low income housing if money is an issue. Try social servises see how they can help too. There are ways it's just trying to find them.
Good luck!

thanks for everyones advice he try to make me feel crazy and says things like you act like you dont care anymore and turns it on me i just need others views and no he not abusive...yet