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There's all sorts of things it could be, but the 'choice' when you do feel you love two people is going to be based on more then just love I guess.
you can love your family...
you can love your friends...
if youre not looking to have children, then you can be openly sexual...
i think its fair to be in love with two people. as long as everyone is honest, and secure, and not needy bitches that require your full attention and time, then whats the difference? weve taught kids that they can have two mommies or two daddies, so why cant they have a mom and two dads, or a dad and two moms?
But I think the real question is not will it work, but is it possible to be in love with more than one person.
Which goes back to the above. I kinda don't think so, because I think you would have to simultaneously be cultivating 2 relationships at one time, and I can't imagine that being possible.
Um... that may have made less sense than it did in my head.
I think the love part, well that part a.) grows with time b.) is a commitment to focus on one person.
I mean, there are so many levels of affection and desire though.
I think it is only possible to "love" one person. In the context that you focus your attention on that person, on your relationship, on the give and take of the relationship, doing your part in the relationship, and of course therefore also receiving things you need from your partner. This is a decision to do this with one person.
Is it fair then that your mate focuses all their attention on you and giving you what you need, while you divide your attention btwn two people and therefore receive stuff (love, affection, support, sex, companionship etc etc etc) from two people? No you are cheating your mate of something that is supposed to be theirs and theirs alone.
I'm sure that a man with a harem can feel affection for two or three or even ten wives . . . but he can only give attention to one at a time really. These women are never really happy, not in the "relationship sense" They received a home, food, and a mate to father their children. Other than that they do not get what we consider necessary in a relationship today.
So in the end, yes ultimately you have to choose, if you truly love either man/woman then you will choose b/c it is not fair to either of them to have half a partner. In the end its like a catch-22.