not really. you can be torn between 2 men. i have found in my life it was because neither of the men were strong enough to enable me to choose..... in the end they both bite the dust.... xxxxx

well you certainly can't be in a relationship with two..not in our 'culture' at least..hmm, being in love with too might be a bit much but perhaps feeling strongly attracted to both and being in love with one of them and feeling confused is quite likely?

There's all sorts of things it could be, but the 'choice' when you do feel you love two people is going to be based on more then just love I guess.

But yeh feelings and emotions are hard to distinguish, I struggle with compassion, I will get blinded by wanting to help or be there for someone and mistake that for love or a strong bond. It can never really be proven but you just have to go with your 'heart' and be honest with yourself, which is the hardest thing.

blondelexus: Yeah same thing here, xD

if everyones okay with it, then its okay.

no i don't believe you can be in love with 2 people at once. just like powerout said, you can have STRONG FEELINGS for both, but not IN love. trust me. i've been there where i THOUGHT i was in love with 2 people but in the end i was obviously only in love with one and had strong feelings for the other because i'm still with the one i love to this day.

okay, what is love?

you can love your family...

you can love your friends...

if youre not looking to have children, then you can be openly sexual...

i think its fair to be in love with two people. as long as everyone is honest, and secure, and not needy bitches that require your full attention and time, then whats the difference? weve taught kids that they can have two mommies or two daddies, so why cant they have a mom and two dads, or a dad and two moms?

I believe that part of "being in love" is cultivating a relationship. If you can possibly cultivate 2 separate relationships at the same time, then I suppose it could work.

But I think the real question is not will it work, but is it possible to be in love with more than one person.

Which goes back to the above. I kinda don't think so, because I think you would have to simultaneously be cultivating 2 relationships at one time, and I can't imagine that being possible.

Um... that may have made less sense than it did in my head.

Scientifically I would say yes. We are nothing more than animals and have the same drives they do. We seek out the best genes within the species and chemical processes in the brain tell us we should mate with them. So in short yes it is. Though I disagree with it and am in favor of monogamy.

It's very easy and not too uncommon to love two people, but it's frowned on in our society and, depending on the people involved, it can cause a lot of hurt or insecurity, so generally you have to make a choice.

simple answer, ... SURE you can.

Maybe I should ask my roomie... I'll wait until his date leaves, though. LOL!

I think it's possible to be infatuated with two people. That feeling you have at the beginning of the relationship where its all butterflies and giggles and quite frankly, usually a lot of physical attraction.

I think the love part, well that part a.) grows with time b.) is a commitment to focus on one person.

I mean, there are so many levels of affection and desire though.

I think it is only possible to "love" one person. In the context that you focus your attention on that person, on your relationship, on the give and take of the relationship, doing your part in the relationship, and of course therefore also receiving things you need from your partner. This is a decision to do this with one person.

Is it fair then that your mate focuses all their attention on you and giving you what you need, while you divide your attention btwn two people and therefore receive stuff (love, affection, support, sex, companionship etc etc etc) from two people? No you are cheating your mate of something that is supposed to be theirs and theirs alone.

I'm sure that a man with a harem can feel affection for two or three or even ten wives . . . but he can only give attention to one at a time really. These women are never really happy, not in the "relationship sense" They received a home, food, and a mate to father their children. Other than that they do not get what we consider necessary in a relationship today.

So in the end, yes ultimately you have to choose, if you truly love either man/woman then you will choose b/c it is not fair to either of them to have half a partner. In the end its like a catch-22.