Ok as some of you know My Mother and Father, Siblings, and I have been the caretakers for my Brothers Children. As of Wed of last week they are no longer wth us because they are reunited with their parents after almost two years. Well my brother has been in jail for the past six months due to DUI. In that time though we never went to see him we spoke on the phone various times. We wrote to him once but he never wrote back. So after no response in the mail we never wrote to him again. I do feel bad that not even once in six months did we visit but it was emotionaly hard for me and my siblings. We had previous arguments that resulted in My borthe not talking very well to me and my siblings. We are still not the same as before and will never be. He complained that we act like we dont love him and that we dont act the same way with him as we do with each other. Its true that me my other brother and sister are not as close to him as we are to each other but thats his fault. He is 12 years apart from me and 8 years apart from my oldest sister. When he was 18 he was tired of living at home and decided that it would be better to go off and join the army rather than to stay by our side while we grew up. So you can see how we have never been as close with him. Ok so back to the point. Christmas was today(well yeasterday but you know its like 12:20am over here). We called our nephews and niece yesterday to wish them a very merry christmas since we could not go see them because they live 45 mins away and we dont have any money for gas. Really none what so ever. My parents are on a fixed income and it is hard for us to get through the month. There is literataly 23 cents n their savings acc and 1 dollar something in their checking. Ok so when we called them they did not answer. We kept calling but no answer. So today I find out that he got out of jail Yesterday. It's been enough time for him to pick up the phone and at leastcall my mother and say that he is home. BUT no! He has not. Nothing. He did not call or come over. NOTHING! After all that we have done for him and his Kids and Wife! NOTHING! My parents loaned him close to $10,000 a year ago to help buy his home(he still has not paid them back) We have been taking care of his kids for almost two years and have done countless things for them and he cant even pick up the phone call my mom and dad and say "Hey I'm home"???? What the fuck is that about? My father is sick(stroke victim) as well as my mother(Diabetes) so he knows that it is not that easy for us to move around as a fam. My dad still suffers from paralasis(SP?) on the right side of his body after three years so its hard. BUT ITS CHRISTMAS!!! He cant even call to wish them a merry Xmas? Dude come on! After evrythng he still thinks we are the ones to blame for all the wrong? I dont mind him not speaking to me and my siblings but my parents have nothing to do with this. He should have at least called THEM! Is it me or is this fucked up?
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