My live-in boyfriend (32 yrs old) has been jobless or less than part-time for the past 4 years (maybe longer..) and he says that he's severely depressed and can't get up the motivation to find a full-time job and stick with it. He seems to be getting worse as the pressure for him to get a job becomes urgent cause I can't pay the bills alone anymore. He has insomnia and when he finally falls asleep, he will sleep until 12:00 or later then for the rest of the day he'll watch TV or play video games. He tells me that although he won't commit suicide, he has more than once searched the internet on how to do it. The only time he'll make the effort to get help is when I threaten him or if he's royally screwed up (as in putting my photo up on a sex internet site looking for a threesome, or trying to cheat on me with my best friend). This help only lasts for a few weeks and nothing seems to change. I feel hurt and betrayed and disrespected by the things he's done, but where I feel manipulated is that although he is unable to get up to clean the house or find a job or complete his homework, or make dinner -he always makes time for a party, for his bowling league, for golf, his softball team, weekend getaways with his friends, to go out for dinner or anything else that is fun. He will stay out late with his buddies and he always seems to have a really good time -laughing, joking around, fully particpating in whatever's going on -he's not a sideline kind of guy. These fun activities consistently happen 4 days out of the week -sometimes every day of the week he's out doing something with his friends. Other people pay for him about 90% of the time. When I get upset or I question his depression -he'll get very upset and says that he's just putting up a front. This doesn't seem like depression to me??? Is there a type of depression like this or am I just getting screwed?? Please help me!
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