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is depression ever an excuse?

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Or are you being lazy if you stay home because of it? If you don't want to go to councilors that make you feel suicidal and take drugs that don't help with the real issues, are you selfish?

If you want to feel better instead of worse are you morally deficient?

Because going to councilors is just a punishment to me, and exercise is the worst punishment in the freaking world and I hate my job.

So when I see articles about work and counciling and exercise being good for people who are depressed, I feel like I'm being told I need to be punished.

All I even wanted was to stay home when I don't feel up to going to work and money isn't an issue.

I thought that the coucnilor I went to woudl support this, but he didn't and he said he didn't know and it was up to me and I could maybe do better.

now I can't get what he said out of my head and i want to die becasue Im so tired and no one is saying that sometimes you need to rest.

No one is saying that maybe I deserve to have lower expectations. That's all I want. I want lower expectations. I don't want to be pushed.

That councilor just told me DO BETTER and no one has ever cared if I felt better.
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And yes, I have worked full time and exercised regularly, so it's not a "if you tried it" situation. I felt better when I wasn't working and I want to take Monday off and I don't feel like I can because if I can control my feelings then I can go to work. But if I go to work I feel worse and worse and worse. And I am so tired of doing things taht make me feel worse.
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that's hard, because depression takes away all our motivation to do the things we need to do in order to feel better....its a terrible cycle
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naw, just my motivation to do stuff I hate. I'm motivated to do things I love that make me happy. But when I get stressed out I just feel like I can't handle doing stuff I hate.
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but thanks for replying. I know a lot of people have trouble being motivated to do anything. I only get that way when I'm working a lot or when i was exercising a lot. All I could think about was escape.
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so tell me again what you like to do

how could you incorporate what you like to do as a means of not giving in to your depression?
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In order to feel better I need to not exercise and not work. I want to blow my head off when I exercise. I want to take a sick day on monday. I felt fine when I took a semester off, but then back to work and I feel awful. Everytime I went to the gym all I could think about was blowing my head off. And I felt a lot better when I stopped hurting myself by going to the gym. Going to the gym is hell. I hate it so much sometimes I wake up in the night and I can't sleep cause I think about people saying going to the gym is good. And I can't sleep now cause I can't stop thinking about how bad I want to stay home Monday and how no one supports me.
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stressed, not stressed i dont like doing stuff i hate. i go to work because money is an issue, but i am way over my head there. i come home to a pile of bills and people's personal issues that they all want me to solve. i want to take a break but i feel if i do all will stop working. i think that depression is not an excuse, its a reason. but if you dont want to do something, depressed or not, dont. worse case scenario it does not get done and you have to live with the consequences... btw i am feeling like shit and have pissed off half of the folks ive responded to so if this gets you upset or angry im very sorry.
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when I do things i love to do, i feel better, but then the job is still there. And I hate it. I just want people to lower their expectations. But when I get told that I can work then I feel like a selfish jerk for not wanting to. And I can't feel better becase I hate my job so much and I want to stay home Monday but then no one supports me. Its all "you can do it" and never "of course you can't, I understand. You shouldn't be expected to."
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it's not about money
it's about doing as much as I can.

and if I can work, then i'm selfish for not working, but I would rather die than keep working my stressful job.

It wouldn't be nearly as stressful if I could believe that I absolutely have to stay home.

So do you think that's possible? I mean you don't know about me personally, but is it possible for someone to feel so depressed that they need to stay home?
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is it possible that staying home for a day or a week or a year or whatever is a necessity?

Because if I could take time off without feeling guilty, I would feel a lot better. But no one supports me. It's all "do better".
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the answer to your question is YES! indeed yes. i am cleared by my doctor to go back to work but i have spent the past month and a half forcing myself to go to work. i have been late more timesthan i can count and it sucks. take monday off and enjoy. just be aware that if you take monday off it becomes so much easier to take tuesday, wenesday and on off. but if you dont need the money or the stress, find another job or quit working out right and do what your passion is to do with your time.
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naw, you're not being rude. and people here are already pissed off.
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I have used my sick days when I needed them, just couldn't go on

also, without meaning to be intrusive, have you ever been in the hospital? I had a good experience when I went in and it was very rejunivating, I was so bad off...
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I definitely care if you feel better. I feel the exact same way. I ask myself if Im lazy and making excuses and I constantly feel like no one cares. Im always putting everything on myself, but I do know deep down that I shouldnt be. I was at rock bottom today and I let someone in and I opened up. It really helped me a lot. I think its important to trust in somebody you can talk to because you would be amazed how much less alone youll feel and youll realize that none of what your going through is your fault. Depression is a viscious cycle and it can control you wether you like it or not. A lot of people cant work when theyre depressed. I quit my job a long time ago. I have no energy or motivation anymore. Which is why theres help. And it's not bad if you need it. NO ONE can do this alone. Look into therapy. Its good stuff.
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yeah, my parents took my to a psychiatrist and I can't get over it. I keep remembering all the "you can change" "your thinking is wrong". All those professionals have become figurative voices in my head and I can't get them out.
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