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If you had one do-over, what would it be?

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I read once that you should never regret doing something, rather only regret the things you should have done. If you had one do-over, what would it be? If you actually had the do-over, how would things be different today?

Here's mine:

I would have never dropped out of college the first time. I was 20, confused, overwhelmed, and I took the easy road. If I had finished school, I could have been a counselor now with a Master's degree. I'd be making a lot more money, living in a house where the faucets don't constantly drip. I would have never met the most wonderful man, the man I married, because we later met while working together in non-professional jobs. I wouldn't have my beautiful son, probably wouldn't be living in the house I grew up in. My point: In all honestly, I'd take no do-over if God granted me one. Everything, the good and the bad, the mistakes, poor judgements, and regrets all led me to where I am now and that's okay. It's okay, because I know that all of that is in God's plan and I just have to trust it. And would I have really been any happier if I was a counselor anyway? I'd probably be counseling during the day and reading self-help books at night for myself :)
jasonswifey
jasonswifey
My sister-in-law was leaving my brother...i knew it and I could have been to his house (5 hours away) before she left. I didn't go becasue I wanted to go to a church lock-in (my last one as a youth) and he killed himself that night. I will always blame myself, I was the only one in the family with no obligations and could have gone to him. Not to mention that I didn't go there for days, he was dead for 4 days before they found him.
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wow that's how i feel also
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I wouldn't have started lying... to myself, to my fmaily, my friends and to my Gods... I can't stop now...
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There are lots of stuff I probably should put as my do-over instead of this one. But I wish I told my high school teacher how much I appreciated and respected him. I never got the chance because he moved away. Funny how sometimes the little stuff gets to you.
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alot of things. I don't like this question.
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I wouldn't change any thing... it would make me a different person than who I am now. Yes I am depressed, but I am getting better and I wouldn't change anything......
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So many things I would change if I could for different reasons. 1) The first time I willing had sex. I didn't love him but I thought I did. I was to young. Only 15. I would wait until I got married. 2) I would have study more in High School. My grades was good but could have been better. 3) Waited to get Married. I know think 19 was to young. 4) I wish I would have asked to go to therapy. Maybe if I went then I wouldn't be going through this now. 5) I would have dated that guy that I liked and he liked me but I was to scared to say so. My mom didn't like him but he was awesome to me. I didn't date him because of my mom. He turned out to be a great man.
starfish
starfish
I would have done more to help my son Isaac before he committed suicide...I let my anger, shame, bitterness, hate, etc. get in the way.

He was staying with his grandma (my X's mother) and I have had so much go on with her and my X, abuse, ignorance, blame, denial, etc. etc. etc.

And instead of rising above it, I let them intimidate me. I stayed away when I should have marched in there and talked with them and with him until they would listen to me.

I should have gotten that one little bit of information I needed to know what was going on, that I did not have the courage to do. I should have walked into the 24 hr mental health clinic, where I finally got that information after Isaac died. I should have told Isaac about the clinic, gave him 1-800 #s to call, and kept in touch with him more. I should have paid closer attention to his SCREAMING signs he was in serious trouble. But I was also mad at him for things he did to me in the past, and for "siding" with "them" -- not so much "them", but their lifestyle of alcohol, cigarrettes, denial, and lies.

If I had done that, he may be alive today.
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I wouldn't have pushed away one of my closest friends because of depression and petty jealousy...

I try to apologize to her...now that I'm seeking treatment and such...but I think the wound was too deep.
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I would have never gotten in the car on March 10, 2001...
My baby boy would still be here with me then...
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i have no idea
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I'd spend my nanna Smith's last New Year's Eve with her as I had always done rather than going to my other nan's for a change. I'd try harder at school; like someone else said, I had good grades but they could have been so much better. I'd have saved harder to travel rather than getting a loan and getting myself into a shitload of debt. I'd have waited until I was much older and with someone decent before losing my virginity. I have tried much harder at university and given it longer than three months before dropping out, and I'd have treated my parents better than I did. And the genitals of the guy who raped me six months ago would be hanging on my wall. If I'd done all that I wouldn't feel so guilty when I watched that New Year's video and was the only one not there. I'd have got the highest grades in my year, have a degree and be working as a translator or a teacher of English as a foreign language in South America. I wouldn't have been so promiscuous, had a better relationship with my parents and not be bankrupt. And the dick on the wall would just be a nice bit of closure for me.
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I wouldn't have got so drunk one night on a holiday and fallen down the slope into the prickly bush. I'd have gotten drunk the next night and taken a different route back to my hotel.
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I would have told my parents sooner about not eating...and other stuff that led up to it...before it gott to that poing
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I would not have trusted my brother with my mothers care.He cleaned her out and dumped her in a home.She was so,so,so sad when she died.
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