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If only....

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....I'd done this different or that different. How many times do you have this thought? I soend half my life worrying about the 'what ifs' and the other half regreting over the 'if onlys'. Is my life so full of missed oppotunities and impending doom. All the smilling happy people I see out there. Have they just made better decisions and few mistakes. Or is this a function of my depression? Is something wrong with the way my mind works right now that it focuses on the negetive all the time.

Actaully I have made some almighty F*ck ups in my life but by the age of 45 most of us have....haven't we?
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i have made some major mistakes in my life and for years i did the what ifs and what if onlys. then one day it just hit my, man im waisting my life and with to many friends dieing around me its time for me to live... but now i find i get depressed for no damn reason at all, lol
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Yup shad, making mistakes is how we learn. It teaches us compassion for others too. Even with depression you can still improve on caring about others. What if's are impossible, if only's are a waste of time. Why not stay in the present and change your life from the inside out? (hugs)
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we all make mistakes that's how we learn. how do you know all those people walking about smiley faced are happy.everyone deals with life differently.some talk about it others keep it in. but i get what your saying negativity is a big part of depression the why me syndrome.
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Oh my I have made some whoppers! And I've noticed that people who seem happy sometimes aren't they just do a good job at faking it.
Being depressed sometimes makes us be harder on ourselves,am a failure etc but you would never be so hard on anyone else.Think of it like that.If you weren't you would you be hard on you? xxx
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What if's are just that, but what if'nt ?
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Hey I've made some almighty fuck-ups at the age of 21!

Yes your mind does focus on the negative (so does mine when I'm down).

So just remind yourself that you are actually a darn nice guy, with plenty to offer regardless of your past feubles.

You do have a shit job though!

Roll on april hey?
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i agree at 43 ive made alot of mistakes in life.its knowing how not to do it again .....
ZAZAS
ZAZAS
ew.........I hate the word if. Biggest word in the dictionary to me. If only keeps you in the world of Usetawas.
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