i haven't been that active on this site for a while now, but i hope i can receive some advice. i've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 15 months now- he has been amazing helping me with random problems: anxiety, depression, ptsd, and so on, but now the tables have turned. i am off my meds, out of counseling, and feeling a bit better, but now he is falling into a depression. he has just hit a rough patch in his life and doesn't really know how to handle it- i don't think he has ever been in this kind of situation before. he is not one to talk about his feelings, but i know he needs to take action to help himself. i feel that i know how he feels (for the most part- we may not have the same problems, but i know how depression feels), but i don't know how to help him. the way he explains things sounds a lot like how i felt in the beginning: don't want to talk, don't want to really do anything. it doesn't go away on its own! i'm giving him a little space right now b/c i don't want him to push me away like i did so many times when i was younger. i guess what i'm trying to say is that it is really hard to just do nothing and give him his space b/c i love and care about him so much. i want to hold him in my arms and shower him with love, but i know that could be counterproductive. when i think back to what i wanted- it was always space. but now i'm on the other side and just want to take action to help him. please- is there anything i can do??? any thoughts would be graciously accepted.
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