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I've been watching the threads here for a while. I haven't noticed this topic yet. I've also visted the friends/family of bipolar disorder but I don't know if my husband is bipolar.
Sorry if this is a long post but I'm totally devastated and didn't know where else to go. I also belong to the breakups/divorce community but since you guys are the experts I thought I'd reach out to you for some advice or thoughts.
6 months ago my husband left me. He told me he no longer wanted to be married and didn't love me anymore. This was kind of out of nowhere. We don't have abuse, cheating, fighting issues. He said we didn't share common ground anymore. I replied by telling him he had no ground at all. He has no interest, no hobbies, very few friends, a very unsupportive family and spends excessive hours at work. He is literally a workaholic.
3 months into our seperation he told me he did still love me and never stopped loving me. He was coming to our house more frequently and we were spending a lot more time together. We started marriage counseling and about a month into it he said his heart just isn't into it.
I told him I think he has depression issues and I didn't think/believe he could love me or anyone else until he loves himself.
I think I should also add that he is a very introverted person.
Another important thing that I've told him and our marriage counselor is that he was taking prescription diet pills- which I don't think he should have been taking as he's not that overweight. When he left me he had been off them for about a month. He went back on them and things started looking better for us. Then he went off them again and about a month later is when he said his heart "just wasn't in it" (our marriage) anymore. I really think these diet pills acting like a mood enhancer for him. I don't necessarily want him on diet pills but I do think he would benefit from an antidepressant of some sort.
He is currently seeing his own therapist because our marriage counselor suggested it. Have any of you experienced anything like this and what should I do? I love him very much and I just don't believe he could have fallen out of love with me so quickly and easily.
Sorry again that this is such a long post. I really appreciate all of your comments and suggestions and appreciate any of you who actually finished reading this.
Sorry if this is a long post but I'm totally devastated and didn't know where else to go. I also belong to the breakups/divorce community but since you guys are the experts I thought I'd reach out to you for some advice or thoughts.
6 months ago my husband left me. He told me he no longer wanted to be married and didn't love me anymore. This was kind of out of nowhere. We don't have abuse, cheating, fighting issues. He said we didn't share common ground anymore. I replied by telling him he had no ground at all. He has no interest, no hobbies, very few friends, a very unsupportive family and spends excessive hours at work. He is literally a workaholic.
3 months into our seperation he told me he did still love me and never stopped loving me. He was coming to our house more frequently and we were spending a lot more time together. We started marriage counseling and about a month into it he said his heart just isn't into it.
I told him I think he has depression issues and I didn't think/believe he could love me or anyone else until he loves himself.
I think I should also add that he is a very introverted person.
Another important thing that I've told him and our marriage counselor is that he was taking prescription diet pills- which I don't think he should have been taking as he's not that overweight. When he left me he had been off them for about a month. He went back on them and things started looking better for us. Then he went off them again and about a month later is when he said his heart "just wasn't in it" (our marriage) anymore. I really think these diet pills acting like a mood enhancer for him. I don't necessarily want him on diet pills but I do think he would benefit from an antidepressant of some sort.
He is currently seeing his own therapist because our marriage counselor suggested it. Have any of you experienced anything like this and what should I do? I love him very much and I just don't believe he could have fallen out of love with me so quickly and easily.
Sorry again that this is such a long post. I really appreciate all of your comments and suggestions and appreciate any of you who actually finished reading this.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
And depress a person. They are very unsafe to take too.
Hope you can get it sorted. Just stick by his side and let him know how much you love him.
He knows how much I love him. I'm afraid he's going to serve me with divorce papers and it's going to be the biggest mistake of his life. I really believe he has a lot of unresolved issues.
Someone please help!
it does sound like hes depressed, im no doctor but my experience is that he could be....its unfortunate but there is not much you can do but sujest that he gets councelling and support him..... when hes in therapy alone maybe he will see that he still loves you....and most of his troubles are his depression....im sorry that i cant be more help....but really its just a whole lot of waiting for you....talk to me when you need to, im always ready to listen...lots of love....jann