I pray when I feel scared for someone else. Ask God to help them.

Hi. Can you talk to your parents or someone in your family regarding your sister? Is there anyone else in your community that you feel comfortable talking too?

Well, I opened up to my friends and they didnt help much, my family is grounding my sister because of her horrible attitude but if I told them what I thought she could do to herself, they would not believe me. It\'s the same case with myself too. I don\'t know anyone else to really open up to. My aunt maybe, but she just had major surgery so I can\'t really talk to her right now. It\'s all really confusing...

It is hard to talk to people you know sometimes. I think that it is because we are afraid of how they may react. For that reason, I would refer you to a crisis hotline. You sound as though you are in a lot of pain. Crisis lines are there to help you with that pain and to assist you in the right course of action.

When I was first diagnosed with Depression and PTSD I had a hard time calling crisis lines. But now, years later, I understand that sometimes we need to talk to someone anonymously. I think you might like to try that.

You could also talk to your sister and ask her if she is in danger of harming herself. She may just surprise you. Knowing that someone cares makes situations easier. But definately, try to talk to a crisis worker at a hotline of some type. You can Google them to find their phone numbers or you can look in your local phone book.

Hope things get better for you.
Meow

Don\'t wait to get the help you need. There may be a school counselor that you can talk to or who can refer you to someone in your community. 14 years old can be a tough age because of school and social pressures, hormones, and generally growing up. It also sounds as if there is something going on in the family if both you and your sister are struggling with such sadness. This confusion will pass as your teen years move on but in the mean time you need to feel safe and cared about. Sadly, girls at your age aren\'t always the kindest people so your challenges with your friends are not uncommon. The good news is that not everyone is so judgmental and you may want to seek out friendships with people who include you and share your common interests. If you are not comfortable going to your parents for help, then please talk to someone at your school - even a teacher- who can point you toward some local resources. Also, keep sharing your story here and know that this community wants to be as helpful as possible.

I have just read your board message...very heart breaking, but NOT HOPELESS NOR HELPLESS! I would encourage you to speak about how your sister is feeling and what she is thinking about doing to herself. If your parents do not want to listen, then go to the school guidance counselor or a school psychologist--someone who will listen to you seriously and find you and your sister help!

THIS IS A SERIOUS SITUATION, AND MUST BE DEALT WITH APPROPRIATELY WITH IMMEDIATE ACTION!!!!! BOTH YOU AND YOUR SISTER ARE WHAT THEY CALL HERE IN IOWA A \"CHINA\" CASE. CHINA STANDS FOR \"CHILDREN IN NEED OF ASSISTANCE\" AND THIS IS WHAT YOU BOTH NEED...NOW!

Also, prayer never hurts anyone!

hope you get the help that you and your sister so desparately need right now.

Your biggest danger is not being connected to someone who can help you, and it does not appear to be your parents. In this case, you need to go over their heads - As well as what has already been suggested, some churches are focused on helping those in emotional need as well as physical - call around. One who does not may be able to refer you one that does. Also, the local women\'s shelter is a great source of community resources. They should be able to direct you somewhere. Or the county health department. Hang in there. You may have to search, but help is out there!! Let us know what you find.

Gosh it\'s so hard to deal with stuff like that. Especially if/when you\'re sad. I\'m sorry you are feeling sad. Does your sister know of any groups or free counseling she can go to? or you yourelf? I used to have a counselor but don\'t have the money for one anymore or insurance. I have to always tough it out. That\'s just not easy is it? Do you have any animals? They are such a help. Maybe you could be around an animal for awhile and that can help you at times.
kath

It really sucks to feel left out of things. I actually don\'t think they really know how you feel. I don\'t thind they are trying to make you feel left out. As for the cutting. There are places to call. I know this is what everyone says and it is easier said than done. Just talk, talk, talk. Stay here and talk to us. See if she will get on here so she has everyone to talk to that has the same problem.

Have you spoken with a therapist? I think if you go that route, you will have support and understanding, while, getting the tools you need to cope. I know, I have been there..it does not feel good, but, try your best to stay strong, and, please if your not already speaking with a therapist please do so...he/she will be a huge help.
If I were you, I would get rid of all negative influences in your life. I did that, it was HARD, but, it is working.

OMG..I just read some more of thee posts here, and, I am very worried about you. If you are cutting yourself, you need to right away speak with a professional. There is help out there. My heart breaks for you. PLEASE PLEASE know that we are all here for you, we care, and you are a valuable, loving, person. You matter. Get the help you need...it\'s out there....have you ever watched Intervention on A&E...they have a site you can go to...www.A&E/intervention.com...they did a show on the cutting/mutilation topic, you can find out where to get help there, I am almost positive. I will pray for you...many HUGS. Please let us know if you found the help you so desperatly need.

my best advice is to pray, as god hears your prayers and wants to help you in troubled times as well as the good. also if you are a member of a church, it might do you good to bring your concerns to the pastor as he can offer you good spiritual advice as well.

I am new here and i want to help all i can. i am very depressed to and taking so many pill that i rattle when i walk. but after my brain surgery in 2001 it seem like everytime i turned around they were putting me on pills. when i need my freind they didn't come around and i thought that was what friends were for. my best friend was my wonderful sister in law who is more like a sister to me. she come down to see me and spend time when no one else will. maybe they get tired of my venting but we all need to vent. i had one friend that i had for 38 years and she only came to my house twice in the past five and a half years. to me that is not a friend. i know she came to my town she had two grown married children and three grand children here but she never came by or even called. so i just say that is ok, i say what goes around comes around.sorry for venting. just wanted you to know you are in my prayers and i will always be here when you need to talk or vent. sending special prayers love hugs your friend in west tx sadsue

all you can do is pray and pray that she gets the right counseling. I am/use to cut. It took the right therapist and notice i said the right one not the first one i seen. you can't make her stop. maybe it wouldn't hurt if you saw a therapist also. They are great to talk to and they give you skills on how to handle the rest of the things going on in your life. I found mine through the crisis center-the pastorial care dept. gave me his name at our local hospital. If your a young person turn it over to your school guidance or a local minister if you can't talk to your parents. remember God cares and so do we or we wouldn't be taking the time to write you back.

Just a inspiring video in times of need..We all get down sometimes.Today is not a good one for me so I re counted all of my blessings. M

http://ca.youtube.com/watch?v=zff2EFDAkSM